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Jan 27, 2012
To A supportive mom:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The system let your daughter and you down. This is what happens when we live in a world where children really and truly do not have rights. And while I commend and applaud your support of your daughter, I also realize that you both need help. Yes, you've spent money on therapy, etc, but you seem to believe that being strong means putting up a facade for your daughter. Not so. Yes, you need to keep her routine normal, but when you deny your Self the help you need in order to deal with the anger and hostility and outright rage, you send the message to your daughter that she too must keep it in. That doesn't mean you have to show her all your rage about what happened to you, but what it does mean is that she needs to know that keeping a "stiff upper lip" isn't necessary. Whether you know it or not, she's reading your body language, she knows how you feel. Being "mom" does not mean hiding behind your rage, it means getting the help you need to deal with your rage. In that way you can be an even greater support for your daughter. Keep building her self-esteem. Listen, really listen to her, and show her that keeping it in will only serve to create more rage and self-destructive behaviour. She needs to see YOU model the appropriate avenue. I send you both love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your daughter's story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Apr 30, 2012
Very brave
by: Anonymous

Your daughter was a very brave little girl. I too have experienced abuse and it still affects me. I wish you all the best.

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