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Jun 08, 2008
Words of support
by: Elaine Riley

Hi Hayley,

I've read a few things on your Open House spot with interest. Keep up the hard work, people need words of sympathy and support, like yours. Good on ya, girl!

Very sorry to hear about the reoccurring Nightmares. Know where you're coming from with those!

By the way, retrospective diaries can be a strange thing. A bit of a "double-edged-sword", so to speak. I've kept one myself, as a sort of way of logging my feelings and emotions; a way of reflecting on what I've learned from past experiences. Can be useful. But what I also noted, is that the diary somehow took on a "life of its own". As though, when I started to write, the words just came of their own accord. I figure they were the result of so many years of things needing to come out. Things that, in the past, I'd been too scared to even tell my Counsellor.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that maybe there are times in life when we need Counselling and support. These can be numerous, and there's NO shame whatsoever attached to that. Maybe the process of keeping a retrospective diary is a subconscious prompt to say "Hang on, not quite fully dealt with that issue yet! Need to talk, to sort it out!"? Maybe there are things going on subconsciously, both for you and I, that indicate there are areas of our lives which we'd like to further improve; or past memories we want to finally lay to rest? Hence the Nightmares? I could be wrong...

But whatever, from reading your entries, I get the sense of a forward-thinking, energetic young woman. A woman who has, and will, continue to make changes and improvements to her life. A woman who, despite a bad start in life, has turned out just fine. A woman with a big heart, and a caring nature.

I truly hope that Counselling this time DOES help you to overcome the Nightmares, for good. All the best, Hayley... from Elaine.

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