Comments for A Long Overdue Update

Click here to add your own comments

Dec 18, 2012
Hayley:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Very nice to hear from you again. I know that addiction is a real challenge. Though I don't necessarily subscribe to the "beating" analogy, I do understand where you're coming from. I believe that our demons (the memories of being abused by various people in various ways) let us go when we allow our Selves to fully feel the emotions and feelings these memories continue to haunt us with. I believe addiction is a way to bury those emotions and feelings; and when we choose the demons over the addiction it's a very important first step. You also said you're getting together with your family in the coming weeks. For the sake of your sobriety, perhaps a different choice is in order...but that's up to you. Continue to lean on the people that are a great support to you and avoid the ones that serve to take you down. THAT is self love. As always, I send you love, light and healing energy, Hayley. Keep up the great work! Thank you for sharing the update with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Dec 19, 2012
Thanks
by: Hayley

Hey Darlene, that "beating" stuff is just my choice of words. I'm having my folks over on sunday as I am working Christmas, and will just tell them outright, I don't want to be drinking anything alcoholic when I got back to theirs. Hopefully they will understand.

Dec 23, 2012
progress report
by: Anonymous

I told my parents yesterday that i am back on the wagon and don't want to touch any alcohol over new,year when i go back home. My mum seemed to me,like she didn't think i would manage it and i put it to her. She turned round and told me that she believed i could. Because i'm too determined. Looks like a pretty impressive start to me. Had a very proud moment when i showed my parents three pictures of me playing hockey that,i will always,hold very close to my heart. My rare goal at the summers hockey tournament, and the two pics of me celebrating, and another one of me grinning from ear to ear after my team the solihull vixens won the tournament. The day of that goal and the tournament win was a very poignant day as it is the 3rd anniversary of our team mate being found dead by her father. It felt like she was watching over us during that cup final and watching over me when i took that shot. I certainly dedicated my goal to her. The whole day that day was surreal. That moment when mum backed me to stay off the drink, and showed my parents those photos were so special. If there are three things that will stop me relapsing, they are knowing i will have my treatment as it were stopped, being able to afford to go ice skating and moments like i had with my parents. There may appear to be a multitude of good reasons to keep abusing drink or drugs and few reasons to stop and get help to stay stopped. But the few good reasons will be so much more important than the multitude of good reasons to carry on. My hockey coach knows i have sought proper help, and has happily backed me. Three great reasons not to drink and the backing from my coach to get help are more than enough for me. Now i just have to do it!

Dec 25, 2012
Previous comment
by: Hayley

That was in fact me Darlene. I was struggling to sleep and forgot to put my name in when i posted the blog. My bad

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Child Abuse Commentary.

Return to A Long Overdue Update

Disclaimer: To the best of my knowledge the child abuse
stories on this site are true. While I cannot guarantee
this, I do try to balance the need for the submitter to be
heard and validated with the needs of my visitors.



E-book: Victim To Victory

From Victim to Victory
a memoir

How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life

Read more...

Most Recent

  1. The reasons I've been absent

    Nov 14, 17 01:30 PM

    It's been another challenging time for me. As I actively work toward an online program for survivors of sexual abuse, I've also had to deal with issues at home. Hubby has been diagnosed with 2 types o…

    Read More

  2. I Self Medicate

    Jun 26, 17 04:40 PM

    When I was 3 we left Illinois for Arizona. The day we left my grandfather had a heart attack and died. I have one uncomfortable grainy memory of him. I

    Read More

  3. Ongoing Abuse

    Jun 06, 17 03:03 PM

    I'm 15/16. I am still getting abused physically, mentally and verbally by my family especially my mother. I don't understand what to do to overcome this.

    Read More

E-book: Victim To Victory

From Victim to Victory
a memoir

How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life

Read more...