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Aug 12, 2010
Hayley:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Only you can make the decision about your mother. What I will say is that I found I had to completely distance myself from my mother (and eventually my father too) in order for real healig to begin. When I realized I could NEVER get from her what I needed, I was free to find it for myself. Perhaps the same will be for you.

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Aug 14, 2010
Be Brave: Be Strong do what you know to be the best for you NOW
by: maurice

Hayley: I need say very little because If you read Darlene's words to you in her comment and act on them you sure would be loving yourself in a big way: Oh, Mothers who ruin their children's lives by not knowing how to be a good mother: It is painful at times for me to read stories that have the mothers abusing their own flesh and blood be they boys or girls: sadly it seems they seem to abuse their daughters more: I had one fantactic single Mom: She was and is my world today: She reared me lovingly in times that were hard: She, I am sure woulf have protected me from those who took advantage of my vunerability and abused me if I told her: But I did'nt know any better and I sure did not want to hurt her in any way: She was honest, simple, but totally a Mother to me: That is why I cringe when I read here on this haven of peace and help site stories that have mothers abusing their baby they carried lovingly for 9 month; Birthed and then began to abuse It; I find that really hard: Hayley thank you telling your story and going to the bother to find Darlen'e site: It can be a new beginning for you only if you want it to be: Darlene can share her heart with you: You must act with the help of the one or two friends that you trust: I will: I can: I must: Because I am worth it.

Dec 29, 2010
Thank you both
by: Hayley

As the title suggests, thank you so much Maurice and Darlene. I did manage to put behind me what happened, and only really say anything about nights out with the Vixens if I am asked. It'smainly work that I talk about, which really doesn't bother me as I love it. At the start of the month I changed wards and now work on a trauma, surgery and orthopaedic ward. It's a mix between civillian and military and I'm learning loads. As for the hockey, that's still going pretty good. Last game was a heart breaker as despite all our hard work, we didn't get the basics too good and 5-4. The other team#s third goal was my fault. Playing on the first line was brilliant and despite being totally gob smacked and somewhat nervous I played pretty damn well. Amazing what one can achieve when they don't try, just relax and have fun, and believe that they can do a good job!

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