Stabilization for Men

by Robert W
(London, Ontario, Canada)

I am 56 years young and I have been taking these two groups from the last time I have written here, I never knew there was a place for me to talk with others , being in a Men's group is Changing my whole out look on life as I see it today.

Without this group, I would be stuck in the same Circle of friends, their negative ways, and my poor selfish ways also, but I learn to be in the Now, learning to be a survivor and not the Victim takes one day at a time for me. I have been in groups for the first pat once a month for 6 months for an hour each visit, Then Building My Foundation for 40 weeks, then Stabilization for 30 weeks. and they just added another 8 weeks for us all.

Then there will be another one after this, so yes learning what I could not as a child, I learn now, and I tell you all this is so great to be so strong , and to help Control my Anger, self Shame, and the Guilt, and the Shame.

And I must never take another Drink to Hinder My Way to Recovery for nothing or no one.

Now I live and learn to keep my Tolerance like any Normal person if I may say.

We all can be strong More than you will ever Know, But do the Leg work to life one day at a time.

Thanks for Reading. And Good Luck To us all.

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Mar 30, 2015
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Healing modalities look different for every survivor. What works for one, may not for another. That's why it's so important to not give up until one finds a way that works for them. And it sounds as though you've found your own way, Robert. I commend and applaud you for your persistence in looking for and then finding your healing path. You are an inspiration for all who are looking for their own path. Keep up the great work!

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Robert. I wish you continued success as you move through your journey. And I send you love, light and additional healing energy.

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Apr 05, 2015
Protecting Our Tiny Hearts
by: Robert W

Why is it when we all have to deal with the effects of child Abuse alone, and also the Molestation while we were so young and Defenceless , and as we never forget , and when we are old enough to tell our Truth, we are not Heard or know one will listen , and the shame and guilt sets in even more, Well I tell you, this had happen to me, and the worst thing of all I did tell many people, I was in a mental Hospital and told the doctors and the Nurses that were on call, and they gave me a room to stay in for 3 weeks and nothing was being done , I waited and waited to see if some one was going to go to jail for my true story, I gave all the names of all the 12 men in my life that I had had sex with as a young boy, My mind was so Distorted I did not know if I was gay or straight, at 16 years old, so I went to my room and locked my door and put a chair and dressers so no one could get in, and I put my bed on fire and lay on the top while burning in flames and smoke. fire alarms went off , the nurses could not open the door, they waited for fire men and they broke the door down and got me out of the burning room, Then they put me on this bed with hand cuffs and took me to the Hamilton Mental Hospital, and I was their 4 weeks and they done nothing for me , they let me out and from there I messed my whole life up after this, I ask some one way no one done anything for me , they told me its because it was to close to home, and they them self had same issues and could not deal with it ether, I guess my point is I had to live on the streets , and I let gay men take me into their home to shelter me, feed close me for sexual favours, and I let this happen because I thought I was gay, and because I was use to being used , I done this to get off the streets, and at 16 these men I was with were in their 40s and over. and they all like little young boys. But I never told my Parents or anyone else because being gay was still in the Closet.

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