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Feb 18, 2011
 Kira:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I suggest you read through my page on this site titled child sex offenders. I don't know what the laws are in Germany with respect to child on child sexual abuse, but what you need to remember NOW is that what this boy did was highly inappropriate, and he is likely to try it again. Only this time, he's older and stronger. He's got more hormones raging through his body, and he's and much more capable of doing you harm. Whatever attraction you feel toward him, he's bad news. You must understand the risk you're putting yourself in by having any kind of a relationship with him. Besides, you're only 11 years old! You don't know what you don't know, but I'm telling you, stay away from him for your own safety. Take those feelings of "upset" you're feeling and take them seriously; they're trying to keep you safe so listen to them. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Feb 22, 2011
 be careful
by: Anonymous

I don't think that you are in that much trouble, if you fancy him then you should definitely let your friendship grow, your just two kids. children are highly sexually charged, adults forget this, so what he did wasn't inappropriate or abusive, in the ways it would be if an adult had done it. he obviously like you but be careful not to let anything sexual happen and if it does, tell! x

From Darlene - Webmaster: With all due respect, Anonymous, I disagree vehemently. What may have started as simply inappropriate sexualized behaviour on the part of one of the children has the very real potential to escalate as the child reaches puberty. Statistically, Kira IS in danger with him. Adults tend to minimize these dangers with children, but minimizing the risk puts the more submissive child at further risk. Relationship violence is one of the fastest growing crimes and dangerous situations among children and adolescents. It must be taken seriously by adults if there is any hope of decreasing the incidents of relationship violence.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
Does Your Relationship Make the Grade?
Mar 03, 2011
 Be Brave: Be strong. Tell on HIM:
by: maurice

Kira: Thank You: you are precious, you are gift to your family especially to you Grandma: She sure would not approve of what he did: He was wrong then and will be wrong as he get's older: Don't be fooled by him: You are an intelligent Girl, special, Darlene has written you safe words to follow, get help, share what you have on her site with some-one or people you really trust: I bet you have a friend your own age and gender and ye share of your girlie growing up stuff with: I am sure together you'll have the courage to talk to a kind teacher or school counsellor: Don't be afraid, Now start having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Oh yes Kira start playing team sports with your class mates and friends: It will help you grow up beautiful and natural with real friends for life: There is safety in numbers: you'll find girls your age talk quite openly about what they get up to with boys but keeping it in perspective seeiing the serious and the silly side of things as you build a friendship with some one: He was a very naughty boy to go into the bathroom because that was your privacy he was invading: You value and respect your own body: so you will not allow anyone a boy of 11--13 con you into thinking what happens between you undressing etc is ok: Darlene sure has re-assured of the danger you might be in: He could well be doing the same with other 13 year old girls: Be safe stay safe: Becaue you are WORTH it and precious:
Jun 26, 2011
 thank you
by: Kira

Thank you for your kind words God Bless you
Jul 10, 2011
 afollow up
by: Kira

I just recently went back to visit my grandma this summer .When I went back my grandmas friend Mrs.R
She kept saying how me and Tj should get together since its been so long.I said sure just to be polite.but I really didnt want to see him after last what he did to me.But after a week or so she called and said TJ was in town and that we should come over so we did .after we greeted each other he looked me up and down and said WOW. Then the adults put in a grown up movie they said why dont you go back to TJ's room so the grown ups can talk.We went in his room and he shut the door .(his room was the farthest from the living room were the adults where).we sat on his bed and watched a movie .for some reson i fell asleep in his bed.not smart.when i woke up he was putting his thing on me .Once he saw me open my eyes he made up an excuse.He said thats just what boys do whe they like someone.then he took off his shirt and pants and said it was my turn and we've seen eachother naked before.He took my shirt and pressed hisself against me and started kissing me .when i tried to get away i got to the door but he shut it and pushed me against the door .He said sorry and he's not going to hurt me he just really likes me.than he tried humping me but his clothes were still on.I tried to push him away but he was way stronger than me .Next thing he stoped and put his clothes on and told me to put on mine then his grandma opened the door and looked at us .Then tj smiled at me and walked out of the room.I tried to tell his grandma and she didn't beleive me and said don't say a word or i'll tell your parents you tried to have sex with my grandson.Than left I told nobody .Then TJ said I hope we can still be friends.This time I am going to tell . Thank listeninng GOD bless

From Darlene - Webmaster: I hope you DO tell, Kira. TJ is a predator. He's likely predating on others too. And his grandmother is an enabler. DON'T go back there. And keep telling until someone listens.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Jul 11, 2011
 Hearts speak to each other even from a distance
by: maurice

Darlene's woman's heart sure has touched the hearts of all her visitors in some beautiful way out of her being able to empatise with all her visitors knowing the pain and the efffects of abuse has on each child/adolecent so KIRA she has spoken againto you from her heart: You'll do what you to be the best and know you are safeguarding another innocent/vunerable child from that predators hands: Love your beautiful self: Be safe stay safe: Hi don't you be forgetting to have a healthy mind in a healthy body: I my previous comment I told you how important it is to have such: I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT: KIRA look in the mirror, hug and cuddle yourself and say I AM I AM I LOVE ME

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