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Mar 08, 2012
 Cidos:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

When we minimize what happened to us as children, we allow what happened to fester. When we tell our Selves that we shouldn't feel as we do or that we shouldn't have the emotions that we do, what we actually do is bury those feelings and emotions in such a way that they keep trying to resurface. Don't try to ignore those feelings. Instead, embrace them, understand them, allow your Self to feel them completely, but do that in a safe environment. Only then will those feelings and emotions let YOU go. This pedophile did terrible things to you as a 7- or 8-year-old little girl, yet you question not knowing it was wrong and call your Self "stupid" for it. Have you actually looked at a 7- or 8-year old recently...because when you do you'll realize that you were just a little girl! Don't apply mature adult values on what you did and didn't do as a little girl. This pedophile (and your enabling aunt) had all the power, power that was misused. He took advantage of your youth and your vulnerabilities. You weren't to blame; HE is to blame. You have no shame or guilt to bear. Shame and guilt lies squarely on HIS shoulders. And while I'm delighted that you had your grandmother to lean on and for support and a decent life, I still believe you need some additional help when it comes to dealing with the effects of what this pedophile and your enabling aunt did to you. You didn't deserve to be sexually abused and to be exposed to the extraordinary violence you were exposed to. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. I send you love, light and healing energy, Cidos. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Mar 31, 2012
 YOU ARE STRONG
by: Kassy

I read that you said, I know it wasnt that bad. And I know this is stupid because it happened a long time ago. Hunny, what he did was wrong, sick and NOT YOUR FAULT. I think you are downplaying it because when someone abuses us like that they take control over our emotions and turn us into their little sex puppets or abuse puppets. and in no way was it stupid and it is a BIG DEAL. It was bad. And I really think you would benefit from counceling, and talking about it with your mother.Its hard trust me i know. But the more you speak and write about it, the better you will become to feel. He has put a whole in your heart and he took away your childhood and that can never be replaced but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know its hard, and you probably get real sad thinking, talking or writing about it but you came to this site for a reason and I just want you to know you are not alone. And there are sooo many support groups, counceling services and websites that can help. I would give you my e-mail but thats not allowed. I really wish you the best of luck and even tho these things happened does not mean it cant be fixed.
-Kassy

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