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Apr 30, 2010
 Amelia:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What's happening in your house is NOT your siblings' fault, just as it's not your fault. To blame your brother for what's happening is to shift the blame away from the two people who are responsible: your parents. I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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May 01, 2010
 Always believe in yourself:
by: maurice

Amelia, don't give up believeing in yourself, don't blame yourself or your brother for what is happening in your house, rather than your home. Your parents are to blame, they need help, loads of it to be parents and with their personal problems. They are not good parents, they are control freaks, sadistic and cruel freaks/sickos Darlene has put your's and your brothers life in perspective. Heed her words, believe her when she tells you you are not to blame. Nice to know you have friends even though you are not play or be with them, that is real control over you by your Father & Mother: At school you can be with them, allow them to give you the courage to tell a trusing, kind, understanding teacher or school counselor. Don't be afraid, they are trained and professional enough to let you know what is the best for you and your broether in your present family situtaion. Fear can hold us back for many reasons and in most children who are in an abusive situtaion. Letting those two people who are your parents, though just a man and woman using you and abusing you. They are not good parents Amelia, You may be helping them too if you tell someone in trust and confidentiality. Get involved with your class mates in sporting and cultural activities which will help you to have a healthy mind in a healthy body. There is safety in numbers Amelia. It has been a learner for many parents that they should not abuse especially physically beat their children out of fear of being caught. Be safe, Stay safe, you'll do what is best for you and your brother
May 01, 2010
 The sooner, the better...Darlene is right!
by: Anonymous

Amelia, what your parents are doing to you and your siblings is really sadistic. They are twisted in their own ways of thinking...not to mention control freaks. You did nothing wrong; in fact, you guys were the children; they were the adults. They had all the power and they only misused it, so the sooner you tell someone, the better. Darlene is right. Amelia, please tell someone you really trust, such as a friend, teacher, police officer, church member, even a sympathetic family member that you have, until he/she will finally listen to you and help you.
May 01, 2010
 My thoughts...
by: Desiree

You know, I was just wondering...

(Now before I continue you, I think this website is intended for a good purpose and that's fine; however...)

If we know about such abuse that takes place, should we not feel obligated, that it's our duty, to report this and to help these children???
I am highly aware of the fact that this website is possibly the only place the victims can come to vent. But these individuals have got to know that writing a post will not resolve their problems and any kind of issue. You offer 1800 numbers, but sometimes that isn't enough.
It's bothersome to me that millions of kids are being abused and nobody is doing anything about it. The signs are there... the call and cry for help is present and just as loud as over... but people are too blind to see.
This is for everyone who is not recieving the adequate care and love they deserve: seek help and don't be afraid to tell someone! Never allow abuse and don't ever cover it up! It's never acceptable! Never. I don't care if you are 6, 14, or even 56... tell! Get the help that you need and move on with your life. Become strong, become a leader...
For those who fear death: For, I think, it's best to get out and die trying than to allow yourself to tolerate the pain and die from the actual abuse. I'm also curious as to know why we can't give out our emails on here. I understand that it is for safety reasons, but what if someone would wish to further a certain topic and discussion?

Anyway, I wish every the best in life and hope all goes well. I wish you the counseling that each of you needs and that one day SOON, you will fianlly be able to lead a better life. The abuse won't continue forever, it only goes on for how long you ALLOW it. Take care and keep your head up. There are people who love you... I, for one, LOVE YOU all. ♥
May 02, 2010
 Part 1 for Desiree:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You've left some very positive comments to story contributors here on my site; and for that I thank you. Today, you're comments sit in judgment of me, but that judgment lacks understanding. In the first year I started operating this site, I tried to report abuse when children wrote me about it, only to find that there wasn't any way to find the person. ALL police departments and reporting organizations told me the same: there was nothing they could do. Repeated attempts failed. It is only on TV shows that these organizations have the necessary tools and resources to locate anyone on the planet; other than the National Center For Missing & Exploited Children. But even NCMEC has limits on who and what they can find. Trust me on this; I've reported MANY cases, including a host of them that have never seen the light of day on this site. So please don't sit in judgment of me. Instead, put yourself in my position. The ONLY way for me to even attempt to get help for those children who are being abused and write to me about it is to try to persuade them to contact a hotline number, and then hope they will do what is necessary in order to help themselves. The reality is that you, Desiree, are in the exact same position as I am when it comes to reading peoples' child abuse stories and doing something about it.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
May 02, 2010
 Part 2 for Desiree:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

As for leaving emails, for all I know you're a pedophile. For all I know, you want to leave your email address for some child to contact you so you can lure him/her into something perverted. For all I know, your intent is to harm, not help. For all I know, you're incarcerated in some prison. Or you're an adult posing as a child for some evil purpose, or maybe even a noble one (such as to determine whether or not I'm legitimate or a pedophile myself). Or you're a child posing as an adult, wanting to be older than you actually are. And if you are a child, you don't know what you don't know, and you don't know the consequences of your actions. You don't know who is on the other end of the computer, just as I don't know. But as webmaster of this website, it is my responsibility—one I take very seriously—to do what I must in order to keep my visitors as safe as possible; and if you don't understand that, then I'm asking myself several questions: Are you old enough TO understand? Can you really predict the consequences of your actions? What ARE your motives? These aren't questions I'm asking of you, rather, they are questions I'm asking about you. This is not a judgment on you, Desiree, much as it sounds like one. It's not personal. It's simply a reflection of the world we now live in, sad as that is. THAT is why I will not allow visitors to leave their email addresses on this site.

Amelia, I apologize that this comment section has been taken away from your situation. I allowed it to happen just this once in order to clarify any misunderstandings of what I can and cannot do on this site. Any additional comments on this thread will be reserved for you.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
May 03, 2010
 Thank you Amelia: Thank you Darlene:
by: maurice

Amelia I left a comment: knowing it was safe and my feelings were expressed in words that I hope would encourage you with the help of people you trust and love would allow you the right to report your abuse to the authorities so that your abuser would be known to them: This site respects each child, each person who relates the intimate side of their abuse giving them maybe the first opportunity to tell and relate the effects of abuse on them: As we read in many of the stories the writers asks even their closest of friends not to break their confidence and trust put in them. Each one abused copes and heals at there own level and when they are ready:

DARLENE your honest appraisal of your site is so valueable and correct to all of us your visitors but especially to me: Yes, while we are encouraged to report abuse we do it in respect for the child, the person, and the annonyminity of each of your Visitors is correct: your respect is real and you have done your home-work knowing the rights of such visitors. Your site is a blessing, is a total safeguarding of each one, each child, each teenager, young adult, Adult to begin the process of their healing from abuse: In their own time and the possibility once they have shred in detail the the form of abuse perpetrated on them on your site is their first realization that there is help out there for them in the part of the Glope the have to live in: Your site Darlene is a beginning for the majority of your visitors to open up and blossom out and relieve the pain of their abuse: For most their first time to admit and acknowledge they were abused. Human Hearts speak in words to each other even from a distance especially those on your site who empatise with each one relating their abuse: Thank You: Keep knowing and believeing you did a valueable requisit for genuine people who search and find your site in order for them to begin their own healing process with the help of your comments and that of others because you vet each comment before you print it: Just proving you are professional in your stewarding of your site in respect of each visitor to your site: Thank YOU
Mar 02, 2013
 Seriously, get out of that house!
by: Anonymous

Please try to get out of that house as soon as you can, Amelia; you've suffered enough and you shouldn't suffer anymore; in fact, you shouldn't ever even have suffered at all. Your parents are mentally ill. As soon as you get away from them (and tell someone you trust), your healing can start in earnest.
Mar 03, 2013
 The dignity that you deserve
by: Anonymous

Amelia, I have to be honest with you; Your story is a bit similar to mine and it's honestly disturbing. None of what happened is your fault and I hope you and your siblings end up working to get out of that house because no more secrets can and will help put an end to the cycle of abuse and helplessness.

It's not your fault that they hurt you; you are important; you are lovable.

To be honest, I have autism (a high-functioning one!) and my parents and my brother have done nothing but tear me down and degrade me for that. Anyway, for starters, tell someone!

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