child abuse story from Lucy was originally posted on January 23, 2006.
is from Kelowna, British Columbia, Canada
following child abuse story from Lucy depicts emotional abuse and physical
child abuse effects on Lucy: very low self-esteem, depression and suicidal
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story begins in childhood, being raised by Portuguese immigrants in the midst
of a vast and foreign city: Vancouver, BC.
a child, I remember the chaos and tension seeming somehow normal – every day,
it was there: the screaming, the yelling, the beating, the crying... It was the same with all my Portuguese
friends - we didn't know any different.
particularly remember sobbing hysterically on my bed one night, at the age of 8,
swearing under my breath that I hated my parents. "Someday," I told myself vehemently,
"someday, when I'm old enough, I'll leave and never come back; you'll
never have the chance to hurt me again, and you'll never see your
beatings weren't always severe, but they were there, constantly... a threat...
father saw fear as a vital part of discipline. After all, through fear he could
the years, I slowly died inside... building up walls and burying the memories. Just existing... It was survival.
few years ago, I almost gave up. I was
in St. Paul's Hospital, in Vancouver, in the midst of my therapy session when I
went into shock. I was suicidal.
therapist feared I was facing too much, feeling too much, and steering too close
to leaving this world.
chose to stay.
I find myself approaching the age of 30: blessed in my marriage to a wonderful,
kind and loving man, and in my family: my two sweet, gentle and loving girls
survived. I met the man of my dreams and
fell in love. I moved to Kelowna for a
new start and I healed much of the pain inside.
And I saw my soul.
I am still learning, still growing, still striving, still trying...
now I know: I am not alone. And I am
blessed because I have people near who love me and who care for me. Special people like you...
Thank you, Darlene.
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Child abuse story from Lucy was re-formatted June 3, 2015
From Victim to Victory
How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life