Child abuse story from Douglas was created July 21, 2007 and was originally posted to my child abuse stories page as story #157. Douglas is from Labrador City, Newfoundland, Canada.
The following child abuse story from Douglas depicts: physical abuse at the hands of his father and emotional abuse at the hands of his stepmother
The effects on Douglas: hatred, fear of his father, feelings of betrayal over the inaction of a once much-loved uncle, a deep-seeded need to protect his self-esteem
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The abuse started when I was 7 years old. My father is a perfectionist, and he wanted me to be like him. I struggled in school, and every time I would fail at something, he would yell at me. If I failed to correct my mistake, he would beat me, until the mistake was corrected. I always feared my father, especially when he would come home after drinking and find out that my homework wasn't done, or my room wasn't clean.
When I turned 12, my uncle came for a visit from my native country, Uganda. He was very good to me, but he never prevented the beatings from my father. He felt that a child must be disciplined if he/she does wrong. Every time I was in trouble, I would run to my uncle for some help. He told me that if I just stopped being a troublemaker, my life would be a bit easier. I hated my uncle after that, because I looked to him as a protector. He let me down.
I have a stepmother who was also abusive, mainly verbally. She would constantly give my father reasons to hit me. If my laundry wasn't done, she would tell my dad. If my homework wasn't done, she would tell my dad. I had no way of escaping the abuse. My stepmother would constantly belittle me if I didn't do well at something. She would tell me that I wasn't going to amount to anything when I grew up, and that my future was bleak.
I am 18 now, and going to grade 12. I recently stood up to my dad, and he has given me my space. We don't talk as much as we used to. I prefer not being around him, because I am protecting my self-esteem, and I feel that he is a toxic parent in my life. I have 2 sisters who support me, but still fear my father.
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