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Feb 04, 2016
 Lin:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's definitely not fair that your mom died when you were so young. And it's not fair that your dad was so self-absorbed and twisted with grief that he lashed out at his three lovely daughters. I can certainly understand that you want your old family back. That you want things the way they were while your mother was still alive. Sadly, that's never going to happen. All you can do now is embrace the new family you now have, assuming your aunt is fair and loving, that is.

What you did to protect you and your sisters is admirable. It's not fair that you were put in that situation. What it showed me is how strong and resilient you really are, Lin. It showed me the beautiful person you've turned out to be; one that cares, one that's compassionate, one that knows the true difference between what's right and what's wrong. Just make sure you realize that you don't have to go through this alone. Lean on the support of your aunt. She sounds like a caring and compassionate person herself. Do things you love to do whenever you can, at school, with friends, with your family. You are allowed to have fun, Lin. It won't show disrespect to your mother or to your sisters, either. They would all want you to be happy. You truly are an inspirational person, and you deserve to be happy. Never forget that. I can only hope that your father gets the help that he needs. But HE is not your problem. It isn't on you to take care of him or to get him help. Your job is to be an adolescent, one who is true to who she really is, one who gets to explore more about herself and enjoying doing so in the process. I know your mom would have wanted that for you.

I send you and your sisters love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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