Your siblings believe the lies... by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster
Willow, first I must tell you that I am no longer in a position to answer questions for my visitors. The issue you bring up about siblings is one that I will be dealing with in the book I'm currently writing. But that won't answer the questions that plague you today. I will just this once give you a very brief reply: You've done a good job of theorizing. The fact is, your siblings were brainwashed from a very young age and they never themselves experienced the abuse to understand that you suffered from it. They believed the lies they were told about you, and then adopted them. They've carried those lies into their adulthood. Their denial of what happened to you is common. It's a mistake to supposed or presume that just because someone becomes an adult s/he suddenly adopts "adult" ideas. We carry a lot of "stuff" from childhood.
Willow, you are tearing yourself apart with the questions you want your siblings to answer. And you keep going back to them for the answers; answers that they will never be in a position to give you. They see you as a "black sheep" in part because you aren't jovial and fun-loving like them. They don't consider what you lived through. But you KNOW what you lived through. So now you must find the answers to your questions yourself. The best way I can suggest is through counselling. You didn't deserve to be abused. You most certainly deserve help for the fact that you were.
Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.
Darlene Barriere Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
