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What kind of abuse is this?

by LLS
(Buffalo, New York, USA)

I am writing an autobiography that includes the abuses in the family. My mom was a schizophrenic. I want to know what you would classify this following abuse as:

I was in second grade. The teacher told my mother that I favored a boy. My mother wouldn't allow me to talk to other kids in school, nor would she allow me to have friends. When we got home, she whipped me and put my feet over my head. She forced her finger in and out of my vagina, hurting me. She said that this is what boys do when you tell them you love them. She said they hurt you. She did this to get me to lose interest in boys. She whipped me with a belt if I made noise. She said she only did it because she loved me and she didn't want any boy to fool me and later hurt me.

Is this incest, molestation, or sexual abuse?

Thanks
L

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Dec 30, 2007
 Sexual abuse...
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

Incest, molestation; it's ALL considered sexual abuse. Although what your mother did to you was not for her own sexual gratification, she did sexually assault you, which IS sexual abuse. However, in a court of law, because she did not do this horrific act for sexual gratification, there is an argument for physical abuse. A lot depends on where you live and the laws of the land. But does the label really matter here? Your schizophrenic mother abused you, pure and simple. When you describe the act, there is no question that it's abuse. You don't have to tell the readers what it is; you've shown it. "Show, don't tell" is one of the basic rules of writing.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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