Shaking the past

May 22, 2008
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Nightmares revisited and shaking the past...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Dreams and nightmares of the past can be triggered by other situations that are going on in your life, situations that often leave you with the same feelings that you had when you were growing up and dealing with the abuse, Hayley. When families continue with old patterns of behaviour, that too can trigger emotions that trigger further dreams.

It's been my experience that to simply say that one has put their past behind them isn't enough. Laying your past to rest is about dealing with the emotional residue of that past, and then forgiving the people that were responsible for inflicting the pain. And when I say forgive, I don't mean saying that what that person did was okay—of course it wasn't okay—nor am I saying that one must tell the person that s/he is forgiven. I'm talking about forgiveness in your heart that ultimately means letting go of any anger and hostility, saying that you will no longer be a prisoner to the emotions; that's what leaving the past behind you is all about, Hayley.

This is obviously still bothering you, so once again, I would recommend more counselling. I'm also going to recommend Eckhart Tolle's book, A New Earth, Awakening to Your Life's Purpose and the Oprah.com webcast with Eckhart that discusses each chapter. Reading this book and listening to the webcasts may do you a world of good. You are so good at helping others, Hayley; how about making you the one to focus on right now.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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May 22, 2008
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Dreams and nightmares of the past can be triggered by other situations that are going on in your life, situations that often leave you with the same feelings that you had when you were growing up and dealing with the abuse, Hayley. When families continue with old patterns of behaviour, that too can trigger emotions that trigger further dreams. It's been my experience that to simply say that one has put their past behind them isn't enough. Laying your past to rest is about dealing with the emotional residue of that past, and then forgiving the people that were responsible for inflicting the pain. And when I say forgive, I don't mean saying that what that person did was okay—of course it wasn't okay—nor am I saying that one must tell the person that s/he is forgiven. I'm talking about forgiveness in your heart that ultimately means letting go of any anger and hostility, saying that you will no longer be a prisoner to the emotions; that's what leaving the past behind you is all about, Hayley. This is obviously still bothering you, so once again, I would recommend more counselling. I'm also going to recommend Eckhart Tolle's book, A New Earth, Awakening to Your Life's Purpose and the Oprah.com webcast with Eckhart that discusses each chapter. Reading this book and listening to the webcasts may do you a world of good. You are so good at helping others, Hayley; how about making you the one to focus on right now. Darlene Barriere Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator Author: <a href="http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/my-story-of-abuse.html">On My Own Terms, A Memoir</a>

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