Respect to Visitors from an Inner Place

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How do I feel the other's pain in the writing of their story??? 
We all are aware that reading the abuse story of another can be very stressful and painful in the feelings with them and for them. I read or came across this reflection on writing a letter to a family member or friend who is away and making it truly personal. Begin by sitting the person down beside you and write away as if you were talking to them, almost sensing the conversations that will go on in them from the heart while they read through the pages.

After reading the heartrending stories of your many visitors, I feel heavy at heart. So I generally switch off and get on with my days routine. While carrying the pain I have read of that person in my heart and letting them walk with me in my ramblings. Just treating them with the highest of respect and just being silent for them just to be. I carry a real human being in my heart because I know more about that person than I do about the person I am physically having a conversation with.

We mostly only know the surface level of people on our day to day journeying and saying hello. Whereas your visitor has shared from the inner self and heart to You and us all who understand their pain from a distance.

My prayer is that all have the courage to do something loving to begin their healing. As well as reading all the loving affirmations you give and the many comments do that they would be able to seek the help where they are at in the corner of the world their struggling to live in because of the abuse perpetrated and done on them.

Your site has given me a greater belief in myself knowing your loving affirming words to each visitor has a relevance and a meaning for each of us who were abused. Thank you.

A Video Reading by Darlene BarriereNote from Darlene: I regret that I can no longer continue the practice of commenting on visitor submissions to the degree I have in the past, as I am currently writing a book on healing from child abuse. I ask that you please read my post of June 24, 2009 titled Announcement Regarding my Comments for a complete explanation. I welcome you to follow my progress on my Facebook page at Healing from Child Abuse. When you get there, don't forget to click onto the Become a Fan link. I do hope to hear from you there.

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Sep 05, 2009
I'm so honoured...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank YOU for your kind and encouraging words about my site and what I do.

What YOU do by taking the person whose story you just read into your heart, and then embracing and validating that person with dignity and respect is sending positive energy toward that person and into the world. This is one of the most powerful things anyone can do because those energies blend with other positive energy; and that's when miracles can happen. Miracles like you and so many of the visitors to my site; there is no question that I am blessed. Thank you for sharing with my visitors and me how you find the lighter side, but more importantly, how you connect in such a significant way.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 06, 2009
someone after my own heart
by: maurice

Thank You, for your empowering words to respect the other from an inner place. That I have witnessed from Darlene from her comment to me after I wrote for the first time my story. Distance never separate's hearts of gold for the misfortune's of another especially n the area of abuse. She certainly makes that very clear each time she writes her real heart feelings to each individual personally. I congratulate her in sensing and emphatising with each one ever so humanly and naturally. Her womanly insights into pain at the hands of an abuser as experienced by herself makes real each of her comments to you and me. I believe the fact she experience and the long term emotional effects of it for a good part of one's life until one seeks healing. She certainly emphasises that point to each of her visitors not just read her heartfelt words of encouragements but to seek the help that is ever so neccessary for each one of us. You are a blessing for pointing out that each one of us must RESPECT the other where they are at in their life after abuse. Darlene certainly is a blessing in herself being of such vision of the importance of setting up a site for each one who write their story when otherwise they would find to talk or tell anyone around them. You and darlene knows it ain't that easy to find that special friend who we can trust to relate our feeelings around having been abused. Darlene I add my acknowledgement to this wonderful caring writer in acknowledgeing your great consoling and comforting site for us all. Your an ANGEL of the Lord. You deserve to be loved and appreciated by us all. I have found your site ever so empowering in my own life. You are beautifully human and very much professional in all you write in your comments. You certainly respect and ask that respect from each of us when we write our comments. I have learned that to be the most important in sharing with people RESPECT must always be at the center of Loving and caring for them.

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stories on this site are true. While I cannot guarantee
this, I do try to balance the need for the submitter to be
heard and validated with the needs of my visitors.

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