My Tribute to Ben Marsh

by Linda Settles
(Lynchburg, VA)

A brave survivor posted his story today. He gave us a glimpse into a life marred by an abuser's deception, betrayal, and depravity. He gave us, also, a light to shine in our darkness. He shared his victory over the powerlessness of abuse. Ben's is a story of hope redeemed.

I commented on Ben's posting, but I also want to share my response in my room. I post it here so that it will be here always--a reminder to all of us that we can overcome!

An Open Letter to Ben Marsh:

I am so proud of you Ben Marsh. You did what few people have the courage to do--stand up to your abuser. Having counseled with multiple abuse survivors, I can tell you that your story, while poignant and candidly painful, is more common than most people want to believe. Brave survivors like you bring the issue to the surface where it cannot be denied or disclaimed.

The most remarkable part of your story is that you have been able to maintain your faith in God through all of this. Though I am sure there were times that you felt abandoned and even betrayed by him, you have worked it all out in your heart and come to the conclusion (as I can see through your last comments) that He is there for you.

We don't always like the pathway our life has taken, and sometimes we stumble along for years just trying to make it through. Then somewhere along the way, the sunshine of God's love burst through the thunderheads of pain and doubt to light our way. That is when we find the "way of escape" spoken of in the Book of James.

I commend you brave survivor. You have encouraged us all by your courageous letter.

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