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Miss (a name that tends to be rather familiar with my parents, especially if I am in the dog house!)

by Hayley
(Birmingham)

Where can I start? I was actually sexually abused from the age of nine, though I didn't exactly realise that until yesterday when I was sat in a doctors waiting room with a thumping ear ache. Funny what pain does to you!

My brother used to touch himself and we both thought it was funny, I didn't know then that what he was doing was wrong, even though he did. Things went down hill from there, and at the age of ten, I knew that it was wrong. Prior to that, I got the od beating from my mother, that went a little bit further than discipline. If I was mouthy, fair enough, but slapped legs, slapped face and insults? Now that's a bit far. I plan to do sort of a retro blog, don't know if that is at all possible as I can't remember everything. Feel free any visitors to post questions or read my posts. It's not all grim thankfully, some good times did occur it's just a shame there was so much sadness involved in growing up.

I'd better buzz off now before I start rambling. I am in the middle of writing an autobiography, I don't know who will read it, if anyone. I need to find a publisher first, and as I would be the umpteenth person to do such a thing it would be hit and miss.

Bye everyone

Hayley/Screwloose

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May 01, 2008
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Welcome to your "room" Hayley!
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

A wise person once told me, "Don't write for the sake of publishing; write for the sake of writing." I didn't understand what he was really telling me at the time, but eventually I came to realize the wisdom of the advice: Write because you are passionate about writing, and only then will the passion shine through in everything you write. Beyond that, writing can be cathartic, especially when one writes about their past.

So, Hayley, I offer you these words of wisdom: Don't limit yourself to only writing your story when you find someone who will publish it; write because writing is your passion, write for the journey it may take you on.

I look forward to reading more of your posts.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

May 06, 2008
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by: Hayley

Thanks Darlene. It is taking some time to get started. I wrote a bit while at the doctors on Wednesday to try and distract myself from the terrible pain in my ear. Unfortunately there comes a time when nothing works so I gave up! I will however continue to write it all down and get it in sequence as much as I can. As you say it could be somewhat cathartic, and with some luck I will hopefully understand things better. I don't want it to be all doom and gloom, it would be too difficult even to write let alone read.

Thanks again for the advice

May 08, 2008
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special !
by: Anonymous

it happened to me, i thought i was special, now i reolise i am but in another right way.. i wont let it beat me and niether should you.. when you get those night terrors... just remember that no one can hurt you now..

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