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Feb 06, 2015
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by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

When we come from abuse, particularly when that abuse included outright rejection in the form of a parent saying out loud, I wish you'd kill yourself the way your mother did, it's not unusual to look for ways to numb all that. But when we numb that pain, we also numb ourselves from all the good stuff too. And that numbness prevents us from being present within our intimate relationships, or at the very least, limits it dramatically.

Your mother had serious troubles and issues of her own, and she took those out on the one person who was the most vulnerable in her life: you. That didn't&emdash;and doesn't—make you less worthy or in any way responsible. It made you the outlet for her fears, anger and discontent. But as long as you continue to numb yourself from the world, you also prevent the world from experiencing your gifts. Healing is a choice, one that must be made at every junction. Yes, the effects of abuse are awful, and they can be lifelong, but they don't have to be. It starts with making a different choice. A choice that acknowledges the deep pain you're in, processes that pain with acceptance so that it can be released, and opens up your heart to understanding and yes, even forgiveness. You already endured the worst of it. Now it's time to bring healing into your life so that the worst of it no longer controls you. It was not you to blame, but it is now up to you to heal. Or not to heal. The choice is yours.

I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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