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Occupation: Health Care Assistant in Oncology

Gender: Female

Tell us about yourself: I'm 29, a sports-mad tom boy, and love my job like crazy. This is the first place of employment since a serious road accident where I haven't been bullied, and it feels brilliant.

Nickname: Screwloose

Tell us about your child abuse cause:
I want to be able to help kids and adults who have suffered abuse. Hopefully, I can help them to cope with what has happened or is happening to them by detailing my own ordeal, and how I coped, felt and dealt with what was happening to me, from the first incident when I was ten, right up to the retribution I suffered at the hands of my brother, and lack of support I endured from a parent who often saw what was happening.

I hope that I can help people in the same way I do at work. Obviously, given my line of work, what these people are suffering is an entirely different entity to what happened to me. However, the pain these patients deal with can be equally as suffering as the pain from abuse at the hands of a parent or sibling.

Other information you'd like us to know about: Due to the child abuse I endured, I have developed a mad sense of humour, but that is just me. Thankfully, my colleagues seem to accept it, as do my team mates at my two ice hockey clubs.

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More abuse in the news and family issues 
I'm back again, and ready for a fight against my brother's ex girlfriend. First off though, the latest wave of abuse to make the news, the horrendous incidents ...

A small number of counsellors can be unhelpful 
I am not sure but here goes. Hayley's room is her personal room. What she related in it to me and visitors to Darlene's site was true and I believe her....

Counselling update 
Some time ago, I posted about my rather unhelpful counsellor. I am still going there, but often times under duress. I still say that she is very much ...

Painful work 
I'm back again, I must be like the proverbial buses, you don't hear from me for ages, then I'm back again in quick successive posts!

This isn't so much ...

A long hiatus 
It has been a very long time since I last posted anything, and a lot of things have happened since then. I am more able to talk about what happened, which ...

Sickening comments and unhelpful counsellor 
I have been going counselling for about three months now, but lately I have felt that I am not really getting any where compared to when I talk to one ...

Emotional Abuse Part 2 
I had to finish rather abruptly this morning as I got called away. Thankfully it wasn't an emergency. I have read the comments I received from the start ...

Emotional Abuse 
Not so long ago, i found myself struggling with a drill at ice hockey training. A couple of team mates had a go at me, the latter of the two brought back ...

Pain in Portugal 
It's a long time since I last made an entry, and my confidence has grown massively in that time. The nightmares are still there unfortunately, but the ...

Taking a break 
Due to illness that seems to have no intention of going away, I won't be around for a bit. I might get lucky and manage to get on email at my parents ...

Holiday pains 
I finished the last post pretty much at the end of year six, about a quarter of which I spent feeling incredibly sorry for myself. I actually don't think ...

Another year, more pain 
I left off last time at the end of my first year in middle school. Things should have got better but they didn't. My parents were still totally unaware ...

What an upturn in fortunes!!! 
As the title suggests, at the age of ten one Thursday morning I went to my middle School a happy kid, then that evening my brother completely destroyed ...

Shaking the past 
I thought I was over what happened to me at the hands of my brother and the trouble that resulted from that. However, I have started having nightmares ...

Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Hayley 
Helping a Friend:  A friend I work with at my job is also a foster carer. She is currently looking after a lad that suffered abuse, and recently ...

My Reactions to Abuse 
When I was in high school, I got in with a bad group of kids and was too much of a coward to walk away when they were bullying. I knew that my persistent ...

Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Hayley B 
I suffered abuse primarily at the hands of my brother, but I kept it hidden, even though I was hurting inside. It wasn't until I was 15 that I said anything ...

Cases of Child Abuse 
Updates on cases of child abuse, in particular Khyra Ishaq

Miss (a name that tends to be rather familiar with my parents, especially if I am in the dog house!) 
Where can I start? I was actually sexually abused from the age of nine, though I didn't exactly realise that until yesterday when I was sat in a doctors ...

Moving to Year Eight  Not rated yet
I have managed to get to a computer quite easily now, as I am working a night shift on agency.

Thankfully year eight passed with no real problems at ...

More Pain  Not rated yet
Unfortunately I appear to have missed an entire year out. this was my twelth year in existence, when I was a third year at Sion Hill Middle School in ...

Pain in Portugal and year 7  Not rated yet
It has been another long time since I made an entry, and I thought I had better make another one sooner or later.

Portugal continued to be bad with ...

Year seven hell  Not rated yet
I left the last entry at the end of year six, and having suffereed a painful summer holiday. Next up was year 7 with a terrifying teacher for geography ...

Recovered and working  Not rated yet
i am now back at work, (Quite literally right now!) and am feeling great. It now looks as though I have cleared the back log of my email so I can start ...

Year six and the pain continues (the rest of it)  Not rated yet
Despite my plans to finish this off on Tuesday, things sort of conspired against that plan.

I left off other than desparate to get home after a long ...

Year six, and the pain continues  Not rated yet
My last entry was from my summer holidays. After that I went into year six at Sion Hill Middle School. I got on well with the teacher, and he was certainly ...

Finishing off Thursdays entry  Not rated yet
As planned, here is the end of Thursdays entry, this time with no leg pulling or fighting anyone for the best sweets! I got to the point where my mother ...

Entry number three  Not rated yet
A little bit late, but here it is. I never realised the impact of anight shift then an early shift in such quick succession!

My last entry groaned ...

A pleasant surprise  Not rated yet
I've had a few uplifting experiences, badinage at work with colleagues or staff, or playing ice hockey. My friends have been a true source of support ...

The first cut  Not rated yet
My previous entry was a bit hurried, and had a spelling mistake in it. Now I see where the saying "More speed less haste comes from"! I know I said ...

Incident 1, ignorance  Not rated yet
Here's the first entrance into what is rather a retrospecuive diary. I was about nine years old and was having my bedroom decorated. It was a choice ...