Female-male sexual abuse

Female-male sexual abuse

by Victor
(Goleta, California, USA)

Thank you for your comprehensive, relatively balanced, and NON-propaganda-perverted site. As a female-male child sexual abuse 'victor' who has fought for decades in silence due to meanspirited ('gender'-as-female feminism is an inane, ugly and insane man-hating ideology) misandry, blatant social, cultural, and legal biases, and reverse sexism in the US 'rape crisis' industry, I am glad to see someone finally taking the time to tell some of the truth. I am also glad to see what is missing here...there are no loathsome lies about rape being "a crime of power but not of sex" nor do you falsify and misrepresent rape statistics to favor female victims at the expense of men.

Here are a few questions that I hope you will use to complete some of the areas that pertain to female-male child sexual abuse.

You write about male-female 'penetrative' sexual abuse. However, female sex offenders often rely on 'envelopation' to force their vaginas, mouths or anuses on men, young men and boys. Do you plan to make these sex-specific distinctions so that males can begin to understand how females offend in OPPOSITE ways from men? What was most terrifying for me as teen was the confusion caused by HOW female sex offenders commit sex crimes. Forwarned is forearmed. However, we men have precious little information to use to protect ourselves so far. Please show us how female sex offenders 'pull', entrap and envelop as opposed to how male sex offenders 'push', force and penetrate. The feature film Heading South shows some fairly graphic examples of female-male sexual aggression that you might be able to use as background. Please pay particular attention to the dialogue these women use.
My sisters committed serious forms of covert incest against me to use me as a protector, as a 'father', as a provider and as a 'friend'. I had no defense against these abuses because they were encouraged by my abusive mother and because they were called 'love'. Will you include SISTER-BROTHER incest as no less serious than the other three types you list?
I notice no knowledge here about Covert Incest. However this form of NON-CONTACT psychological incest is known to be common (especially in single-parent homes) and causes terrible consequences to the victims. Will you bring COVERT INCEST here for us so that when my local newspaper profiles a meth-mother who is raping her boys covertly I can show them your information and so that we can see this reported as the terrible abuse that it is. The award winning Israeli film Broken Wings is a heartbreaking story of covert incest from a first-born daughters point of view. I also ask that you google Covert Incest for more.

Note from Darlene: My answer can be found at the link below.

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Jan 23, 2008

An encapsulated answer...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Victor, as I read through your various emails to me, I found that almost every line bled of deep emotional pain. I can only imagine the horrors you must have lived through. I'm so sorry that you had to grow up in such a horrendous environment.

Now to address your points: This site cannot be all things to all people. I created this site in order to educate people about child abuse and its signs and effects, but I also wanted child abuse survivors to have a voice and be validated. I have achieved this with my various story, article, commentary and Ask Darlene pages. These are the areas of my primary focus, and they will continue to be.

Victor, there are limits to my personal resources, which is why I introduced the concept of OpenSpace, a place where visitors with a specific child abuse related cause can champion that cause.

About my sex offenders pages; I've included only basic information because I intended them as overviews. It was never my intent to delve deeply into the topic. I've left that for other more specific websites, so that I can focus on my primary goals. I have no intention of going any deeper into the subject matter than I already have. If my visitors want more information about "Covert Incest", then I welcome my visitors to Google the keyword themselves.

I believe you misread the list of sibling incest on my Incestuous Sex Offenders page. It's not a list that specifically identifies who the offender and who the victim is; it's a list of the interaction between the two. In other words, brother-sister means BOTH the brother and sister can be either an offender or a victim.

Victor, the email address you supplied on your private emails to me has been identified by the automated system as undeliverable. However, I wanted to point out here that I do not reply to my visitors privately. While I thank you for the suggestions you offered in that private email, I refer you back to my third paragraph above for my reply.

I thank you, Victor, for taking the time to write.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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Victor, as I read through your various emails to me, I found that almost every line bled of deep emotional pain. I can only imagine the horrors you must have lived through. I'm so sorry that you had to grow up in such a horrendous environment. Now to address your points: This site cannot be all things to all people. I created this site in order to educate people about child abuse and its signs and effects, but I also wanted child abuse survivors to have a voice and be validated. I have achieved this with my various story, article, commentary and Ask Darlene pages. These are the areas of my primary focus, and they will continue to be. Victor, there are limits to my personal resources, which is why I introduced the concept of <a href="http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/openspace.html">OpenSpace</a>, a place where visitors with a specific child abuse related cause can champion that cause. About my sex offenders pages; I've included only basic information because I intended them as overviews. It was never my intent to delve deeply into the topic. I've left that for other more specific websites, so that I can focus on my primary goals. I have no intention of going any deeper into the subject matter than I already have. If my visitors want more information about "Covert Incest", then I welcome my visitors to Google the keyword themselves. I believe you misread the list of sibling incest on my Incestuous Sex Offenders page. It's not a list that specifically identifies who the offender and who the victim is; it's a list of the interaction between the two. In other words, brother-sister means BOTH the brother and sister can be either an offender or a victim. Victor, the email address you supplied on your private emails to me has been identified by the automated system as undeliverable. However, I wanted to point out here that I do not reply to my visitors privately. While I thank you for the suggestions you offered in that private email, I refer you back to my third paragraph above for my reply. I thank you, Victor, for taking the time to write. Darlene Barriere Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator Author: <a href="http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/my-story-of-abuse.html">On My Own Terms, A Memoir</a>

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Jan 29, 2008

Broader rather than deeper?
by: Victor

Darlene,

Thank you for your courage, your hard work and your UNCOMMONLY credible content on this website. Since you offer an important public service for English speakers worldwide I, for one, would be glad to help you break your personal resource limits should that be necessary. My interest is in a BROADER more COMPLETE OVERVIEW of child abuse (rather than a DEEPER more detailed focus) so that the millions of OTHER silenced child abuse survivors like me have a voice too.

Victor

P.S. I am uninterested in "championing" causes on your EDUCATION website...although I am interested in fair-minded balance wherever child abuse (as a subject) is perverted by common political, legal, or cultural lies, falsehoods and misrepresentations. I am also uninterested in having PERSONAL discussions on a PUBLIC blog (which is similar to Covert Incest) so please email me in the future when you respond to me as a PERSON. I welcome you as a PROFESSIONAL when I contribute to public pages from a professional distance.

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