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Child Abuse Story-Francine 21-08-07

by Francine
(San Ramon, California, USA)




Those Who Were Supposed to Protect Me:  
Even when I was little, Grandma Olga and her husband/sidekick, Grandpa Anatoly (a.k.a. "Big Guy") would come over to visit me. Sure, my grandparents were good to me, but they never stopped the beatings from my parents! They felt that every kid needs to be punished when he/she misbehaves, otherwise, does bad.

One time last year when Grandma came over, I immediately ran up to her for some help because my parents were brutally beating the shit out of me. But all she said was, "If you stopped being a troublemaker for good, then your life would at least be a bit easier. Just because you don't like your parents at all, this doesn't mean you get to make up stories like this. No granddaughter of mine will ever be saying things like that!"

I hated my grandparents after that incident. They were supposed to protect me, but instead they betrayed me!

I was only 7 1/2 years old when my mother, in a crazy fit of rage, beat my pet mouse to death with a flyswatter. It was a white mouse that I'd been raising after I had discovered him eating the seeds next to the peach tree in my former backyard (I used to live next to Golden View when I saw him). That little mouse would crawl up to my lap, only for me to pet him. That mouse must've been my only friend, outside of school. Anyway, that incident made me realize that whenever I tried to take an animal home to keep as a pet, my mother killed it!

Whenever I tried to watch cartoons (I was still a kid), my parents turned off the TV and then either beat me or locked me up in my bedroom, where I had been kept for 5 1/2 years. They won't allow me to love anything!



Back in the seventh grade, my mother sent me to school in turtlenecks everyday. It was her way to humiliate me! The kids would laugh at me and call me "Turtleneck Girl". This continued until one of my para-educators, Mrs. S, took the matter into her own hands because she was very concerned (actually, I'm autistic). She sent me to the ladies' locker room and had me change my (green) turtleneck into my P.E. shirt. When I thanked her, she immediately sent me back to class, but not before she firmly warned me, "In the future, I don't want anyone making fun of you anymore. Got it?", to which I agreed. When my mother came to pick me up, she saw me in the P.E. shirt and immediately was furious. First of all, she stormed out of the car and screamed at Mrs. S for interfering and said, "I will raise my daughter in my own way, so mind your own beeswax, Cindy!" Then she took me home and beat me up for accepting charity.

But now that I've had to turn to the psychologist at school, I feel that things are slowly starting to get better. So if you need help for yourself/your loved one, do what Mrs. S did, cuz she saved my life!

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Child Abuse Story-Francine 21-08-07

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Aug 21, 2007
It was betrayal . . .
by: Darlene Barriere

Yes, Francine, your grandparents did betray you.

I was glad to learn that one of your teachers stepped up for you. We all need rescuers and people who are supportive in our lives. I'm also delighted that you are seeing a psychologist.

Keep working on yourself, Francine. You're worth it.

Aug 22, 2007
Well done
by: Anonymous

Every child needs to have a future to look forward to, but how can you when neither your parents or grandparents will help you get there. Well done Mrs. S. You're a hero, & good on you Francine for seeing a psychologist. You go girl!!!

Aug 22, 2007
Reply to Darlene Barriere and Anonymous
by: Francine

FYI, Mrs. S is actually a para-educator, but thank you so much for feeling sympathy and letting me know that you care about me. But unfortunately, I can't even trust anyone else because I feel that everyone (except Mrs. S) might betray me (like my grandparents did) if I run up to them or call them for help. I still don't trust my grandparents anymore because I've looked up to them as protectors since I was a little kid, but now I've felt that they really let me down. You see, my grandparents are and have always been cowards and/or traitors who feel that "every kid has to be punished whenever he/she does wrong". But thank you so much for commenting on my story.

Aug 23, 2007
Consideration would be appreciated
by: Darlene Barriere

To the person who goes by the handle "Anonymous", writing comments that are less than encouraging. The comments feature for this category is intended to provide support for the people courageous enough to share some very personal details of what they suffered. If you can't make supportive comments, then perhaps this isn't the forum for you.

I have the ability to delete any comments that I feel are inappropriate. I have done so for this story, as well as another. I won't tolerate disrespect.

Aug 23, 2007
Reply to Darlene
by: Francine

You're right, Darlene, I'm sorry...

Aug 27, 2007
I wasn't referring to you, Francine
by: Darlene Barriere

Francine, from what I can tell, you have been encouraging, supportive and highly respectful of the stories and of the people submitting them. That's what the people who have suffered child abuse need the most, and I'm happy to see that you are doing such a good job of it.

I want you to know that I wasn't referring to you when I posted the comment below. Someone who logged in using the handle "Anonymous" has left 2 messages that were inappropriate. One was on the page for your story, the other on Sharon's; both of which I have deleted.


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