Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Tammy

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Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Tammy

by Tammy
(Pennsylvania, USA)

I am a survivor of childhood physical, emotional, verbal and sexual abuse. I am a victor not a victim.

I have experienced so much healing in my life since I started counseling 6 months ago. If I knew what the future held on this path I would still chose it again; for even though it has been and is so hard, it is so much more worth it. To be free and whole can never cost too much.

My approach has been to, no matter the cost, embrace the truth. Truth as it is, not as I perceive it because of my abuse. That people are free to make their own choices and my abuse was the choice of my abusers, for me my parents, there is no fault for me to claim. I am innocent, free from shame and guilt.

I have not always seen the truth right away through out this journey, but as I have trusted in my God He has shown me truth as He knew I could handle it with Him, His power. Once I see the truth I embrace it no matter the effort or the cost to me emotionally.

I have also ALWAYS been honest with my counselor. Is it easy? No. Is it painful? Yes. Is it challenging? Of course. It is all of these and more, humbling, difficult, heart-wrenching. Yet the real questions are, is it worth it, does it help me to move forward, is it useful in my healing? Yes, yes, yes!

Honesty and truthfulness, effort and faith in my God. These are the keys that have helped me.

Do not fear starting this journey, fear not starting it. For in the starting your healing begins in the not starting you remain broken. Allow the truth to set you free.

John 8:32 "You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free."

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach

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Jan 18, 2010

Tammy:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story of healing with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jan 19, 2010

Thank You. your the very best, honest and truthful
by: maurice

Much Thanks Tammy your healing process encourages me to continue with mine and not to fear talking to the right people to make it happen. Yes, journeying through it with a counsellor is painful at times but letting go and living one's life to the full each day makes it worth while. Especially re-claiming one's self worth and buildind up one's self esteem. Good on you, you give hope to all young adults and indeed children and teenagers great hope. Talk it through with a therapist or a counsellor is truly the way to healing and recovery becoming a victor over being a victim of ABUSE

Jan 22, 2010

To Maurice
by: Tammy

Sounds like you too are on the road to recovery, know God loves you and sees us as the He created us, pure, precious and beautiful. Then as well as now. It is as though it never happened in His eyes in relation to His perception and acceptance and love of us. His love heals a shattered past, now being what matters most.

Jan 31, 2010

It's so hard
by: BMW Princess

I wish I had your courage.
I hang on. I'm trying to overcome my own trauma.
I think I'm more empathetic now and willing to stand up for others. Healing is a long hard process.

Feb 01, 2010

I know <3
by: Anonymous

To BMW Princess by Tammy

Dearest you, you do have courage, I know this because you are searching for answers, you posted here, you have begun. Knowing you need help, seeing yourself as you really are is where one starts. I have no courage save in my Lord Jesus, He is my courage, my strength. Take one day at a time, celebrate each victory, no matter how small it may seem, for none are small. Healing is a long hard process, accepting that truth is part of the process, I have gone through much in my healing as well, I have fallen so hard it has shook me to the depth of my soul, yet each time as I have trusted soley in my God, He has picked me up, carried me and strengthened me so that I stand by Him and in His power alone. Find someone you can trust, a friend, a counselor, a pastor, family, anyone and start speaking the truth of your past that you can face the lies it has taught you about yourself and you can begin trading those for the truth, You are a princess, beautiful and loved.I love you and even more so God does. If you have any questions, ask. I will answer. Even if you do not believe in my God I still love you, you are my sister, you are special.

Feb 01, 2010

I know <3
by: Tammy

The above comment was mine, I forgot to put my name.

Feb 02, 2010

''WOW'' the power of the written word
by: maurice

Tammy You were born beautiful, precious and pure like all babies out of the womb through the sacred passage way of our mothers. I like this honesty from Job in the OLD TESTAMENT (1:2-12)Naked I came from my mothers womb, Naked I shall return. The LORD gave, The LORD has yaken back. Blessed be the name of the LORD.If we take happiness from God's hand, mus we not take sorror too. Tammy Thank YOU. your comment was most uplifting to me and I have no doubt to Darlene and her visitors who read it. Always believe in yourself. You have given hope to many by the telling of your story. Mind How YOU go. I am the best, I am beautiful, I am wonderful. I love me because I am WORTH it. You sure are.

Feb 03, 2010

46 years ago...
by: Tammy

So today is my birthday... a time of sorrow? or a time of rejoicing? Don't we all have some days that hold even more horror, if that's possible, in the memory. All our memories seem so painful, yet on some days, or holidays, or seasons, they are even more so. So it is with my birthday, this holds a memory unto itself. So in that it could become a day of sorrow, yet only if I so choose to let it. And I DO NOT. Today is a day of REJOICING! Today God created me those many years ago, Psalm 139:13-14 "You made my whole being; you formed me in my mothers body, I praise You because You made me in an amazing and wonderful way. What You have done is wonderful I know this full well." I live for the truth of these verse, I live now in the present, I live in the love that surrounds me in family and friends, I live in my Lord's love, which is enough and more. I celebrate my birthday today, standing tall, for I am Tammy, created just as I was meant to be. I am loved by my Lord, held by Him, being healed by Him. I am safe, secure and free. I am me.

Feb 03, 2010

Thank you!
by: Tammy

Thank you Maurice, you speak the truth. I will remember this, for your words are a healing balm. I too like the story of the life of Job, a godly example. Abuse happens because sin is in the world, we all have free choice, and many chose to sin. My abuse, all abuse, is because the abuser chooses to sin. We are not to blame, need carry no guilt or shame. Their choice, their sin. God does not so desire this for us, since sin exists, abuse does. God has made a way through His Son, He was with us as we were abused, crying with us, and feeling out pain. He will take it now as well, it we so choose to give it to Him. As one leans on and trusts in Christ the burden we carry of out abusers sin becomes His, let Him carry yours, by ourselves we cannot do this. Give Him a chance, He will heal you. Love to all.

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