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Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Lisa

by Lisa
(Location Undisclosed)

I am 26 years of age and I am in the process of healing from the child abuse that I suffered. I went through physical, emotional and sexual abuse from my family. My mum never really loved me. I was tortured quite badly. I could deal with it then, but now it's taking effect on me.

I was hit with a belt buckle, hot cups of tea thrown over me, hot dinners thrown down me, locked in cupboards, made to sleep in the same sheets that I had wet the night before, and received hits and punches left, right and centre. I was told how I was a mistake, that she wished I had died when I had an accident and was in hospital;, I was nothing to her! I never received love or affection. In fact, the last time I remember a cuddle from her that meant a lot was when I had the accident and my heart stopped beating while I was in her arms.

During this time, at the age of 11, my sister's boyfriend started sexually abusing me. He touched me and inserted his fingers internally. He would grab me from behind and cover my mouth whilst doing so. He would visit me in the night and touch me, and when he got me alone he would make me do things to him. Whilst this happened, my mum and both my sisters were aware of this and didn't do anything to stop it or report it.

I could go on forever with my story, but the long and short of it is that I have come this far and eventually saw that I needed help. I have started my counselling sessions, and yes, it is hard to talk about all the nasty things that have happened to me as a child, but it is part of healing. Please, if you are reading this and thinking you are not ready, I promise, we are never ready...it's you that has to make the first step to recovery!!

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Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Lisa

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Jan 25, 2009
Counselling really is so important in healing and recovery...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Lisa, thank you for your message of how important counselling is for healing and recovery from child abuse. And congratulations on discovering this for yourself. Some abuse survivors are more ready than others to seek out help; but the real challenge is in knowing that part of the process of counselling is remembering, and thus reliving, sometimes horrific memories at a time when most are trying to forget. But circumventing the process only leads to effects that follow well into adulthood, as has happened to you. I say this less for you directly, Lisa, and more for my visitors who will read this.

I speak from personal experience when I say that counselling/therapy is grueling; but it's the healing and recovery element of therapy that makes the journey so worthwhile.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 25, 2009
solidarity
by: Todd

I am sorry to hear about the abuse you've endured. as an adult survivor of physical child abuse, i can share in the pain and anguish that you have are dealing with. the residual psychological, emotional, and cognitive effects of the abuse i endured as a child are, at times, to much to bare. therapy has helped tremendously. continuing to grow and develop as a person, and not as a victim is my ultimate goal. i wish you the best and please know that others walk this earth who have unfortunately shared in your pain.

Jan 25, 2009
The same
by: touched2mysoul

My experience is similiar to yours.. the recovery is very difficult, very painful, very difficult at times... but it is worth it... I am better because of it... I am not whole yet but im also not small shattered pieces. I encourage you to continue the process... I wish you the best and i hope you find peace and love with in yourself ...
God Bless

Jan 27, 2009
You will be made whole!!!
by: God's daughter

I want to say that I certainly sympathize w/your pain. I was sexually molested as a child and I forgave my step-dad, but I didn't realize that I still needed healing. So, 16 years later as I was being prayed for, a prophecy came forth that I wasn't aware of. The preacher prayed that God would heal me from what my dad did. Before, that moment I didn't know. But, I thought about it. The memory was still very painful and hurtful. I began to pray for my healing, mostly because I want to help children who are going through what I went through. A few nights ago, I confided in a woman of God about my issue. She prayed for me and instantly I was delivered. I don't knock counseling, but I do want to let you know that God can heal you because he healed me.

Jan 29, 2009
Thank you for the replies
by: Lisa

Hello everyone,
Firstly i would like to thank you for the replies that have been posted on here and i am sorry to hear the pain you have all been through!
Im still with the councelor, it was really hard yesturday, i had to write it down and let her read it as i was not strong enough to go through the pain again. This really helped me so hopefully, fingers crossed, this messed up state of mind will start to get better :)

please keep the posts coming! its really helpful to hear about other people and there experience with there councelor! I dont feel alone!

Thank you and best of luck to you all!

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