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Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery from Kym

by Kym
(Location Undisclosed)




I don't know where to begin with my story. I guess from the beginning. I grew up with my mother. She was sexually abused as a child. I was around 6 or 7 when my mother forced me to give her oral sex. Afterward she took me in the bathroom and brushed my teeth really hard and she told me if I ever told anyone I would get the worst killing of my life. Which in her terms that meant severe beating. I was use to getting beat. Surprisingly I got to a point where they didn't bother me. But that night...that night of performing oral sex on my mother stayed in my mind for years. I was afraid to tell anyone. I hated her. I finally had the heart to tell someone when I was 15 years old. I told my sister (she wasn't raised with me) and we cried together. I had cried many times before but this cry was different. It was a let go...it was a water balloon that had been waiting to spring a leak. And a heavy leak it did.

I left my mother's house when I was 17. I had to. You want to know why? I became a mother myself. I had a daughter. Yeah a DAUGHTER! Even though my mother said I was going to stay there and sign my baby over to her I knew that I would never allow the same thing to happen to my baby girl.

I'm 33 years old now. My daughter is 16. To this day she has never slept over her grandmother's house. I'm not a perfect parent. But I found peace in my children (I have a 7 yr old son too). I am still healing. I still hurt. I talk to my mother but it's not a mother daughter relationship as it should. My daughter on the other hand posted a message on her personal page of the internet and guess what it said..."My mother is my best friend." Now that's the best healing I believe I could ever get. :)




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Apr 01, 2010
Kym:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Apr 01, 2010
Thank you
by: Briana

Your story really inspires me. Thank you so much for sharing. I am 17 now and until the age of 15 i was physically and sexually abused by my mother. She used to make me do all kinds of things to her and she used to do stuff to me. It was soooo awful. I still can't seem to get over all of it. I told myself I could never ever have kids, especially not a daughter because it would be too creepy and scary and bring back so many memories. I am so glad you were able to move past what happened to you. I am still scared of the word mother or even becoming a woman because i don't want to be like my mother. I know that sounds stupid but I can't seem to just forget and move on.

I don't talk to my mother anymore. I hate her so much and I refuse to see her so I don't have a relationship with her at all. I respect that you still talk to your mother even though its not a mother-daughter relationship. I am too scared to even talk to mine.

Your story has made me think and given me a little hope that maybe one day i might be able to have kids and move past it. I am so happy for you! :) Thank you for sharing

Apr 02, 2010
heros moms are heros some of us in some cases
by: Anonymous

your story is great one
although i am eatin lunch and felt sick when you said what she did

and also , you sound really ok
and honest and heatlhy thinking too
kept your moral s there must have been someone role model that you did have

in your family good person, now you are
and definately did the right thing
for your family
and also i have a son i saw on his web site said i am his hero listed me first , days where i felt i had not appreciation when i saw this
made my world and i felt appreciated,
and same as you, you and me we are heros
you to your girl and me to my boy now man,
at least in that case,
wish you luck of the world,

Apr 02, 2010
half full , half empty, yours full , lucky
by: Anonymous

contine hero mom

i also wonder now that you talk about this the hero thing, many of the little things time and place my family gave me to show they cared and all
the little things they said and did and said thankyou while others didnt know me
those ones those children they were the rewards for all my good as mom and all the sacrifices
the ones later if they dont know you understand
they dont seem to matter , what they think or say
and when and if you have more remember this
not all are going to be so special your girl
and well some see half glass full and half glass empty. hope yours all full up your family wish you luck.

Apr 16, 2010
Mommy is my best friend it is a healing love tablet
by: maurice

There you go Kym a loving healing healthy tablet from your 16 year old daughter and I've no doubt she influences her baby brother by her love and respect of you. Be true to yourself, you are a winner over abuse, you have a sister who loved you you, I am sure hugged you, wiped each other tears in the telling of what happened between you and your mother. Sadly she has the name of being your mother but she sure was far from being so in abusing you the way she did. Oh kym, you have worked through alot, I agree with Brianna when she says your story is an inspiration to me. You can be assure Kym it will be an inspiration to many of Darlene's visitors who read it. I was reared by a single mom. Mother's mean the world to me, thankfully 90% of them are real and true. Your siblings and yourself were just the unlucky to have a sicko of a mother. Not the best, She is as you say your biological MUM so there is nature there between you and her. Great you have realised that you don't have to be a mother in your own right like her. She sure knew how to abuse you, neglect you, giving you a bad start to life, foster homes, adoptive home etc. great you held your head high and believed in yourself. You are a winner over abuse. Please live your life now to the full, get all the help and support you need accepty yourself as being wonderful and beautiful. If you are not in counselling then you might think about attending a few sessions. It will do you a world of good, benefit you no end, give you good feelings about the beautiful mother woman you become to your chldren. Live Well, Laugh Alot, Love Much. I can, I will, I must because I am WORTH it. especially for my children. Mammy is my best friend, A heartfelt loving thought from a beautiful child and daugther Kym.

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