Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Jill

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Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Jill

by Jill
(Location Undisclosed)

As the youngest child, I was sexually abused, physically abused, and emotionally abused by my family of origin and some of their church/other friends. There was a thin curtain between my everyday life and the abuse. At 38 I finally opened the curtain, ready to deal with it all.

For the last 7 years, I kept looking for validation outside myself, and it wasn't working. There was never enough. I just realized what I was missing when I read many of the stories on this site.

In order to recover from the abuse, I needed to validate myself just like I would any other person who was abused. It's so easy for me to validate others, but so hard to do it for myself. Why?

I guess I was avoiding it because I feared being hurt again by my father or any other of the abusers or their enablers. I feared they'd come back and continue to deny they had done anything. Even if they continue to deny what they've done for the rest of their lives: SO WHAT? Everybody on this site knows that abusers are just denying their responsibility.

I need to make this closure and move on so I can enjoy my life without their junk running in my mind. :) So I'm letting that fear go like a message in a balloon into the sky where it can pop and land back in their lives where it belongs.

Thanks Darlene for offering this amazing website.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach

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Oct 22, 2011

Jill:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I learned a very long time ago that I wasn't the one to let go of the "stuff" or the "burden" or the "pain"...it let go of me when I allowed myself to fully experience the emotions attached to each of the events that led up to the emotions. It was quite amazing. The fact that you've reached the point in your life where what others say and think don't matter is huge. You know that no matter what, you'll walk along the path of healing and recovery. But those who abuse and deny they abused are not along that path; they still live in victimhood. We cannot change or control others or their behaviours, we can only control our own response. When we change how we respond to the same issues or people, everything changes. The goal is always to move to a place of light and love, because in light and love comes true peace. You're in that light, Jill. Thank YOU for sharing your story and you're all-important message with my visitors and me. You're an inspiration.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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