Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Hayley

by Hayley
(Birmingham, England)

Helping a Friend: 
A friend I work with at my job is also a foster carer. She is currently looking after a lad that suffered abuse, and recently looked after another lad who had been dumped by his mum. It's not hard to see that she loves the lad who is still with her, and having met him briefly, and the lad who is no longer with her, it's not hard to see why.

Having already posted on this site a couple of times, I knew that it would help these two boys, so I gave this website address to her in the hope that the boy who was moved to another foster home will be allowed to see it, and the lad who is still with her will be encouraged to look at this site as well.

Since I started using this site, I decided that my abuse can affect me in a positive way. I am better equipped to empathise with kids who are being abused and adults who have suffered in the same way. I still suffer nightmares from time to time; some leave me greatly upset and very angry at the people who hurt me so badly. I would rather continue to use this site to post messages of support to other users.

For the first time in ages, I watched my favourite TV show "The Bill" that had a story line that focussed on the harrowing theme of child sexual abuse. Despite feelings of anger and hate towards the Paedophiles, I didn't even feel close to tears. I was over the moon about that, and on telling this particular friend at work and another friend, they both said that I had taken another step to overcoming what my brother did to me, for all those years in one form or another, and what I suffered from my parents who must have seen that he was hurting me but appeared to support my brother's behaviour towards me when they saw him calling me names and stuff. It was my ordeal, me that went through it, and I have therefore decided to allow it to affect me in a positive way; that being helping others who have been through this sort of ordeal in whatever form it was.

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