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Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Dan Part 4

by Dan
(Wisconsin)

After writing my bio (links to those pages on this site are below) I started see a counsellor, so things got a little worst before they got better. First off the strapping with belt being naked was my parents and others way to make me submissive, so I would not run; I would stand in place and take my punishment. I discovered also that my uncle was allowed to punish me this way when I spent the summers on his farm, with him, my aunt and their 6 daughters, all of whom were around my age.

The part about baths by babysitters was partly due to my own neglect as a child; I would at times defecate in my underwear because I would wait until I could no longer hold myself from going in my pants. So my parents allowed my sitters to bathe me to make sure I was clean. So this just gave Stacy (the babysitter) and her friends the opportunity to take advantage of me.

I also learned that while I stayed with my uncle and aunt on the farm, my aunt would bathe me with my 2 younger cousins who were 2 and 3 years younger than me and allow the other girls who were my age and a little older to watch. This went on until I was 12 years old. Like Stacy, many times my aunt would not have pj's or clothes in the bathroom for me to put on so I would have to run naked in front of the girls to get to my bedroom to get dressed.

The part about what happened in the Army was because I was so submissive that I allowed people to take advantage of me. I never fought back or stood up for myself; I was weak.

I am now coping with all of this so I can sleep better at night and to forget, forgive and go on with my life.

See Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3 of Dan's story on this site.

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Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Dan Part 4

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Feb 23, 2009
Good that you're in counselling...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm very glad to learn you are in counselling, Dan. I wish you all the best along your road toward healing and recovery.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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