Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Cindy K

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Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Cindy K

by Cindy
(Location Undisclosed)

Physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse:
My abuse started as a child around 3-8 years old. I too did not tell cause I didnt know that was going on until I was 10-12 years old (my sister and I both abuse).

I am not so sure I healed from the abuse due to not seeking any kind of therapy from my mom. I have a different look out of life than most loving kids had when they were growing up, I had to be careful who I trusted, could not make friends easily because I felt ashamed, guilty, weird.

I have a strong sense into children's eyes that tell me they are going through some kind of abuse.

For me it's over and now 51 years old and I am the same way about making friends, trusting, and men/boyfriend were difficult for me to enter act with them.

As I grew up I became a mother of mother of two (boy - girl) and I had to stay home with them because I couldn't work due to the fear of someone not loving them like I did.

I cried and told my mom I cant trust anybody to watch my kids so I can work, we were so poor and my husband was doing the best he could (I never told him about the abuses)to provide for us.

I believe this abuse helped me to know to take the right road: no drinking, drugs, education (1 year). It seems like I have a strong sense of character in people.

For starters if you were abused as a child, don't dwell on the abuse and make a promise to never let this happen to your child/children when you get married, protect, protect and protect until your children are old enough to do it for themselves.

Oh I am so sorry for you and my heart goes out to you!

Love Cindy K

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Jun 04, 2010

Cindy:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It sounds as though you broke the cycle of abuse with your own children; congratulations! Thank you for sharing your story and your all-important message with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jun 04, 2010

I am a winner over abuse: A proof that there is life after absue
by: maurice

Cindy K you are one very special woman, great mother, You can safely say I did it my way and it worked out good for me: Reading through your story I was getting sign's of hope for other's especially Mother's Father's who have children: A mother who genuinely love and cherish their are automatic winners over abuse: I am not going to allow anyone abuse my children as I was abused myself: Cindy you have proved there is a life to be lived to the full after abuse: Your own children were your Angels of hope: Giving you the inner belief and the courage to be brave in dealing with the effects of abuse on you: Thank You: Darlene, has a loving positive comment for you: She knows best so her encourageing and affirming words are from her heart to you personally: Always believe in yourself Cindy K: Help your children likewise: live well, laugh alot, love much: I will, I can, i must because me and my children are WORTH it:

Jul 12, 2010

Buddha - Life is Suffering - Don't I know it!!!
by: Anonymous

As I read your story, I could see many of the same elements of my own abuse, which started when I was around 8yrs old which I didn't acknowledge until I was 12 when I knew more about "things". I didn't tell as firstly my mother had a nasty temper and mostly was living her own life at that time and also "he said Mum had given him permission" which I must have believed. Through my teens, I cut off my hair, desexed myself, hated my mother, rebelled against everything/everyone .... Actually when I was 11yrs old I cried everyday, I was seen as a crybaby, no-one stopped to ask me why? In my late teens I was engaged to a controlling person, more emotional abuse, you are not worthy, you are nothing. Then I became anorexic and this continued for several years. After my recovery I rebuilt my self esteem, my worth and was grateful for having this opportunity to become a new me.
I am now 47yrs old, I'm married with two children. It took me a long time to find the "right" partner. When my eldest daughter was 2yrs old I went thought a very difficult stage coming to terms with my abuse and did everything to protect my own children from any opportunity for anyone to abuse them. I have recently realised that I was still angry with my mother for not protecting me, and I realise that I never allowed my Mum to look after my babies at night as a sign of not letting her allow anything to happen to my children. My mother has passed over 10 yrs ago, but I can now finally heal from this. Who would believe the evil that [some] men do and the long term affects of their actions? I know that I still have layers of healing to do. Thank you for sharing your story with me.

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