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Child Abuse Story From Yonda

by Yonda
(California, USA)

Betrayed: 
I moved to America from Russia with my mother when I was 5 years old, shortly after my father died in a car accident. I simply love to learn new things, and quickly picked up the English language.

My mother had always been kind to both me and my sister, Juliana, who is my twin. But after my father's sudden death, things changed. Though my sister and I are twins, one huge thing is different: I have cerebral palsy and use crutches to walk. Due to this, my mother would always be calling me "cripple" or "stupid," saying I was simply a waste of time and space. She was also physically abusive. She would hit me with anything she could find: belts, extension cords...anything. I sometimes wondered why me, yet not my sister. Most of the time, I simply thanked God she was safe from my mother's rage.

I remember one summer clearly, when I was 6. Both my sister and I were at the babysitter's while my mother was out of town. The babysitter took my sister and me swimming. She asked why I didn't want to swim. I simply shook my head no. Thinking I was just afraid, she told me she would help me and that I would be ok. She took off the shirt I was wearing over my swimsuit and saw the big purple marks from my mother's belt. She asked what happened, and I told her I fell. She just left it at that. It bothers me that some people can be ignorant enough to see marks like that on a child and not do anything. It all ended when I was 16, when my mother threw hot oil on my back. I still have scars.

After that incident, the police stepped in and my sister and I went to live with my grandmother in California. I am now 19, and both my sister and I are attending college. Though the past was dark, the future can still be bright.

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Child Abuse Story From Yonda

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Dec 18, 2007
On the right track . . .
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

Yonda, the tragic and sudden death of your father certainly did not justify the way your mother treated you. Calling you "cripple" and "stupid" was WAY out of line; she had no right to call you down. And the physical abuse she exacted on you was nothing short of criminal. I hope she's in prison for the scars she caused. And you're right; the babysitter should have seen the red flags of abuse when she saw the severe bruising on you. She should have reported suspicion of abuse right then and there.

I'm glad you and your sister were able to find safety with your grandmother. You should be very proud of yourself for going to college. You have a great attitude about the future. That positive outlook will definitely keep you on the right track.


Dec 18, 2007
What the hell
by: LLS Buffalo

Dear Yonda,
What the hell? How dare her do that to you. I just want to scream in her face right now. I am glad you are in college. I am an art teacher and I made it through as well. I am glad you did. Man. I am very careful to report everything I even think is abuse amoung my students. I don't care who likes it and who doesn't F them. If they have nothing to hide then at least I didn't stand by like a nobody. Thanks for writing that story. I hope the best for you there in sunny California. Take care. It's your life now and it sure sounds like you got yourself together in spite of it all. Good luck.

Dec 23, 2007
So sorry...T_T
by: Francine

Yonda, I'm so sorry about what your mom had to put you through although at least she spared Juliana, your twin sister. As for your mom brutally throwing hot oil at your back, that's not right at all! Well, I'm glad that you and Juliana are in a safe place with your grandma! Well, my parents yell at me, argue with me, and hit me, too, but they haven't done more than that! You might want to try some counselling.

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