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Child Abuse Story From Wendy

by Wendy
(California, USA)




my child abuse story is hard to write , my mother was pregnant with me she left my dad cause she "says" he kicked her while pregnant with myself , 3 yrs later she met my step dad... long story short he abuse from that time til i was 14 yrs old. he stopped because he had a stroke and half of his head was taken out he nearly died and is paralyzed now , um the events that had took place are pretty much the same he would just fondle me as i got older it got worse he'd "Wrestle me down" and i would yell to my mother but would never turn she always turned when he stopped, his sisters all of them always came up to my mother and told her their was always something fishy going on my mother wouldnt listen and instead asked me if it was true, i always said no because she seemed so happy with him and she always say "you know if anything happens its your fault if your sisters get taken away , and it will also be your fault if some one sexually abuses them " so i never said anything , up until i got pregnant at 17 by my bf of 3 yrs i didnt quite say anything about the abuse until the day he was born . she imidiatly didnt look surprised but said " well its your fault because you didnt say anything before" surprised, hurt, and disappointed that she obviously picked him over me , i stopped talking to her she was to have no contact with me or my newborn son we only spoke when i would watch over my sisters, in may 2009 i had reported the insident of my step father to the orange county police department we followed with a cold call and he was later arrested in january 2010, that same day i found out we were pregnant yet again with our second child n right after my test i received a phone call from my mother saying she was gonna kill me she was gonna hire someone to murder us and that if i was was happy now that i reported it, i had hope my mother would come to her senses and get the clear picture that he had molested me for all those yrs, all those yrs i was never allowed to go anywhere i stayed home n watched tv all day n stayed a prisioner to my step father, she would say that i was not allowed to leave the house because people would try to molest me and i had to stay home,little did she know i really was being molested already by her husband, right now my step father is in jail still under going trial and waiting to be senteced his bail is too much for my mother to bail him out although she has tried to bail him out , since the birth of my second son i have not seen my sisters for more than 15 months and we so miss each other dearly they sometimes call me or message me on fb how there mother is with them and how they wished they lived with me instead because she is so hard to deal with , just so if anybody wonders why i waited so long was because then my youngest sibling was 5 she was laying down with my stepdad which is her real dad she got up while i called her for lunch n she was holding her groin crying i aske dher what happened and she immediately told me , after my son i told my mother bout the incident hoping shed leave him to the safety of my sisters and still didnt , right now im in total loss because i went to a lawyer to file sibling visitations rights and there is no law that has it so i lose , im not sure what to do at this point i feel like the devil won this , and being evil is better than being good because at the moment my mother is winning , my mother wont allow my sisters to see me because she believes i speak bad about her which i never have until i she didnt allow me to see them anymore.






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Jan 03, 2012
Wendy:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother has a great deal to answer for. You may have a case for her as an enabler of sexual abuse, especially if the pedophile is found guilty, but I'm not a lawyer. Just know that you were so courageous to speak up. Never blame your Self for not speaking out earlier. Fear kept you with the secret. Fear is the number one reason that victims do not disclose sexual child abuse, fear of not being believed, and fear of what it will do to the family. Keep looking out for the well-being of your sisters, your own children and your Self. And reach out for any and all resources that are available to you. I strongly suggest you seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you deal with the repercussions of the sexual abuse at the hands of someone that was there to protect you and keep you safe from harm, and in order to help you deal with the betrayal and abandonment from your misinformed and deluded mother. You didn't deserve to be abused, betrayed or abandoned, Wendy. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jan 04, 2012
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Wendy, I can't believe that your mom would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick pervert of a stepdad and allow him to offend you and even your sisters 24/7...how dare she! Shame on her for running away from you instead of protecting you from that beast! I am disgusted by her reactions to you guys being offended; children should always come first. A mother who chooses such a sick pedophile over her own precious daughters is the mother who doesn't deserve to have said daughters in her life. Oh, and it's way beyond cruel and sadistic for her to make you guys submissive to him, knowing full well what he did to you guys. Oh, and as for calling you and threatening you with death for reporting that pervert...appalling because doing so, as well as enabling the abuse, is just enough to throw that useless excuse of a woman to prison for a long time. I really hope that you and your sisters are out of that house now. You are not to blame for their disgusting behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse and offend you. You were the child; they were the adults. They had all the power and only misused that power over you. I'm glad that you reported that pervert to the cops; I just hope that you report your uncaring enabler for a mother as well.

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