Child Abuse Story From Wendy

Child Abuse Story From Wendy

by Wendy
(Saskatchewan, Canada)

It took me a long time to realize that not everyone lived the way I did. Dad seemed to get angry a lot. Anything ticked him off. It was like walking on glass when you crossed his path. It was like a chance game. Go fast enough with skill and solemn-ness and you may get away without getting yelled at for not doing good at school or get a smack across the ass because he thought it was funny. I told him to stop. But that just edged him on. He just kept doing it - so I just came to accept it. My uncle did it too, so it must have been normal.

I wouldn't get to eat dinner or supper because I didn't help make perogies or help can food. It depended how mad he'd get whether it'd be for a day or a few. At 5'7", I would constantly either gain or lose weight: between 115 to 135. At the cost of also being called fat and a stupid-bitch-who-only-ate didn't help either. The doctor told me I needed to gain weight, but I couldn't get passed 135. I used food to punish myself in any way possible. I wouldn't eat when I thought I did something wrong, or I wouldn't eat when I was depressed, but then I would overeat. My weight and eating habits are still a constant struggle.

I never told anyone of the beatings I got or the neglect that came of my father and my mother. I thought it was how everyone was raised. Then, at 16, I moved out of my home without consent and began to start a new life for myself. I am finishing up my grade 12, and plan to become a hairdresser. Everyday is a struggle, but I am slowly relearning how to deal with the pain and the daily problems people face everyday that I don't know how to handle right.

My dad has disowned me. But my mom still seeks contact, even though I don't. My 14-year old sister still lives with them.

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Dec 20, 2007

I commend you for your strength . . .
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

You didn't deserve to be yelled at, Wendy. You didn't deserve to be called names. You didn't deserve to be beaten. And you certainly didn't deserve to be disowned by your self-centered father. When your father renounced you, what he really said was: "I'm so wrapped up in myself and my own needs that I can't see the harm I've done to you. I'm more important." That's his problem, Wendy, not yours. Don't for one second take on that guilt, because it's not yours to bear. His self-centeredness is his responsibility. Yours is to work on yourself. You have to stay strong. You have to continue to do what's best for you; and if that means detaching from your family, then so be it.

The struggles you face can get easier, but you can't do it alone. You need a support system. And if at all possible, I strongly urge you to get some form of counselling, if not now, at some point in the near future. Try to take advantage of all resources available to you. Don't be afraid to talk to a counsellor at school; he or she may have a list of available resources you can tap into.

And do pat yourself on the back for having the wherewithal to continue with your education, Wendy, in spite of all the struggles you are facing. This really does show your strength of character and determination. I applaud you for showing such resiliency and self-esteem. I am definitely rooting for you.

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You didn't deserve to be yelled at, Wendy. You didn't deserve to be called names. You didn't deserve to be beaten. And you certainly didn't deserve to be disowned by your self-centered father. When your father renounced you, what he really said was: "I'm so wrapped up in myself and my own needs that I can't see the harm I've done to you. I'm more important." That's his problem, Wendy, not yours. Don't for one second take on that guilt, because it's not yours to bear. His self-centeredness is his responsibility. Yours is to work on yourself. You have to stay strong. You have to continue to do what's best for you; and if that means detaching from your family, then so be it. The struggles you face can get easier, but you can't do it alone. You need a support system. And if at all possible, I strongly urge you to get some form of counselling, if not now, at some point in the near future. Try to take advantage of all resources available to you. Don't be afraid to talk to a counsellor at school; he or she may have a list of available resources you can tap into. And do pat yourself on the back for having the wherewithal to continue with your education, Wendy, in spite of all the struggles you are facing. This really does show your strength of character and determination. I applaud you for showing such resiliency and self-esteem. I am definitely rooting for you.

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Jan 01, 2008

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by: Anonymous

wendy, if ure 14 year old sister stil lives wiht them , i advise u to get her out now, report this, maybe u can save her child hood

Mar 28, 2008

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by: Anonymous

Thank you - hearing someone say that to me is just an extra boost that I always need every day. To the last comment made, my sister still lives with them, but they have a live-in counseller helping my biological parents learn to take care of her. (This is what I think was their last choice before they lost her to the government)

Just as an update, I currently live with my foster parents which I do believe God sent them to me to take care of me and teach me right.

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