Child Abuse Story From Wanda For My Granddaughter

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Child Abuse Story From Wanda For My Granddaughter

by Wanda
(Virginia, USA)

Child's Fear:
I have a granddaughter who has experience sexual abuse. I was the one she chose to confide in. Her mother has a problem with me. I chose to take actions right away to let her parents know, she told them but wanted me there for fear of how she would be received. Her mother showed no emotions even after going to the hospital. My granddaughter has feelings that her mom cares about the family member who molesed her. I am on top of getting cousel for her but things are moving slow. My granddaughter is terrified she has guilt that she has divided the family, she feels she's no longer a virgin. I explained to her that she has been violated and this means she is still a virgin.

She is hurting inside and needs to talk to someone, we still talk but she need professional help. I hope mom will wake up soon and see how her daughter is suffering.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach

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Nov 08, 2011

Wanda:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You're being a fabulous advocate for your granddaughter. I agree that she need professional help, but that's not something you can control. All you can control is your response. You're taking the right approach, teaching her that what happened was a violation and that it wasn't her fault. She is not responsible for dividing the family. That's what children, even youth, believe, because it is innate in them to believe that the world all around them is directly affected by what they do and don't do. They believe they are responsible for all the bad around them, especially when adults in their lives send that message. Keep praising her for telling. Tell her how courageous she was to disclose. Tell her that no matter what it will never be her fault, no matter what happens. And that if she didn't tell, then others would be sexually abused. That she's a hero for telling because other children will not suffer in the way she has suffered by telling. Focus on all the good her disclosure is doing. At the very least, if her mother and other direct family member can't provide the support your granddaughter needs, she has you. I do hope the disclosure has been given to the proper authorities so that appropriate action is taken. It will be devastating to your granddaughter to believe that her mother has taken the side of the sex offender rather than believe her own daughter. Be your granddaughter's support in whatever capacity you can be. That will help you more than you might ever realize, perhaps not in the moment, but certainly as she moves through her life. Keep up the great work! And don't forget to take care of yourself, Wanda. You're no good to her if you have difficulty coping. Lean on whatever resources and support you have. Treat your Self well, and don't be afraid to show that to your granddaughter. It will teach her what she must do for her Self. Thank you for sharing yours and your granddaughter's story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Nov 14, 2011

a good grandmother
by: BMW Princess

You sound like a good grandmother.
Tell your granddaughter it wasn't her fault. I agree that she is still a virgin b/c she didn't consent and wasn't in a relationship with the Neanderthal

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