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Child Abuse Story From Viki

by Viki
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I was seven. It was after my parents were divorced and I went to live with my dad (I chose, he tricked me) and that's when he started. He would yell day in to day out. I would be in trouble for something I couldn't do or didn't do right. But I didn't know any better. I thought what he did to me was normal. I thought every kid went to school hungry from no breakfast and your parents waited to get clothes until they hurt to wear, or get food when the fridge was wiped clean. Not until I was in about 5th or 6th grade I realized it wasn't all right for him to do what he did. But I didn't know exactly what he was doing. I didn't know it was child abuse. I thought I had the problem that I was too sensitive. But then he said something even he could never take back and I decided to take matters to the authorities.

I went to councilors, psychiatrists, and a hospital stay or two. My mom tried to tell the police but they said it was hearsay...that she was lying! So it was like we were screaming our heads off and they refused to hear us.

So one day after an argument with my dad I said, "Screw you!" and ran to my mom's house. Shortly after he tried to bribe me to come back, then he threatened to get rid of my dog. I caved slightly. I said I would visit him sometimes if he kept my dog.

So now I have to wait till I'm 16 to get my dog (when I can work) because my mom lives in an apartment and the only way I can have my dog is if we pay like 3 or 4 hundred dollars extra which we can't do right now. But if I get a job and save my money I should be able to pull it off! (Yay!!) I love my dog and truthfully the only reason I even speak to my dad is my dog even though my brother is currently living with him.

I really hate my dad but I do not want him to die. I don't think I'll ever truly hate him that way. He is and always will be my dad but that does not excuse anything he did/say. But he has shown and said he loves me and misses me but I don't think he does, or at least I'm not sure he does.

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Sep 07, 2009

Stay positive...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Viki, your father is troubled. Always remember that HE'S the one with the problem, not you. There's something lacking in him that created the situation he forced you to live in. He needs help, but he's a grown man who must make his own decisions. You must concern yourself about YOU, Viki. I'm glad you're with your mother and that you are in a safe and nurturing place now. As much as you love your dog, try not to let your father continue to hold the love for your dog hostage; because your father knows that's your soft spot. He's manipulating you. Lean on your mother and friends for support during this difficult time. And stay positive. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 07, 2009

Power Trip
by: Scott Canada

Adults go on power trips. Its not enough to have physical power over a child but many enjoy the power they have over the child's mind. Just look at the use of threats of harm to an animal.These threats and often actions scare children ...it sure worked with me when my daddy shot my dog in front of me.
I believe adults who abuse children do so because of their own life shortcomings. They are miserable! Perhaps their job sucks and the boss is constantly bullying them. Adults being the brunt of racism and jokes and bigotry on the job causes great stress. This stress comes home to those of us on the bottom of the totem pole. Its about pecking order.
These adults are perhaps so unhappy that they bring it home and take it out on us children. After all, we are on the bottom in their eyes. And a pet is even lower.A pet is the lowest. An animal will never get the respect a human will get, and an adult can abuse an animal just to torture the child.
Perhaps these abusing adults finally feel power when they take it out on children. They finally find someone weaker and smaller and defenceless like a child or animal. It is then that they are finally the boss. They are bullies and tirents! These are my thoughts anyway.
Before I go I would like to touch on the subject of abuse in education. I believe that teachers, back when I was a child, most definitely went on power trips. Imagine the power an educator had over a strangers child when they could beat them freely without repercussions. These men and women had choices in their power. My teacher made a choice when she pulled down my pants and underwear to beat me in front of all my classroom. She made that choice. She could have chosen not to. She could have strapped my hands. It was her power trip!! An adults power over a child. A teacher over a student. I have to wonder how unhappy and stressed she was in her life to have chosen to do that to me. After all, I am supposed to forgive right? I bet shes sorry..right? If you could ask her today, what would she say? Would she be sorry. Did it make her feel powerful? It made me feel like not wanting to live. Job well done teach...Maybe she enjoyed it. She did it to me enough, She must have been on top of the world.

Sep 08, 2009

Safely in the arms of your mother.
by: maurice

Viki, great news you are being loved and cared for with a mothers LOVE. Thnks be to God I say. Your Father is not a nice man. he is abusing your intgrity, your feeling, your emotions by using your love for animals (your dog) to hurt you. He ain't good at all. Yes he's you father only of kinds. He certainly does not deserve the name of Father. Trust yourself, trust your Mam, be safe stay safe, don't put yourself in positions that might be a danger to you. Your father seems only to use your dog in order to have his power over you. Not as you well know now a nice way of a father to show love and rspect to his beautiful Daughter. Viki, Always believe in yoursefl, you are highly intelligent, I have and idea of that from the brave and courageous way you articulated the telling of your story. Hi Viki, read Darlene's words to you with your Mother, make sense of them together be each other strenth in Love and staying safe. You have your friends who will walk and talk with you and keep you safe. Scott and Darlene care about you as I do. We all want what is the very best for you. Hi you deserve the best. I'm Special, I love me, Look in the mirror and see the beautiful and wonderful me. Era go on, say nice things about yourself, Always believe in yoursefl VIKI. I can, I will, I must. Just because I believe in mysefl with the help of my mother and friends.

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