Child Abuse Story From Vanessa C

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Child Abuse Story From Vanessa C

by Vanessa C
(California, USA)

So I was like 5 or 6 years old when I was sexually abused . ( touched ) I'm gonna be a little specified just cause its not as bad as the stories I read right now .. I'm 13 now ..

So this happend once . I had this baby sitter named M-- & i pretty much lived with her , I lived with my grandma and she worked until 10 pm. Every day , so I would go straight to this ladies house after school .

She had a son, & I don't exactly know his name but I'll call him P---. He sexually abused me . ( touched me )

We were in the same room one day watching cartoons there were 2 beds on each side of the room , I was on one and he was on the other . Suddenly , he got up , locked the door & got on top of me . I wasnt exactly sure what was going on byte this perverted guy started making out with me , restarted going down until he got to my pants , pulled them down a little .. and gave me this really weird look ... he then pulled them lower , and I think you can guess what he did with his mouth .

A while after that , I wasnt really bothered by it cus I didn't know what it meant or that it wad bad .. but his friends went over to his house & they were playing pool . He grabbed me , put his arm around me and stuck his tounge in my mouth and said I was his girlfriend . ( for the record , he was like 18 years old ) or older , not exactly sure . But after that I didnt think about it until I got older , for a while I was all " f*** my life " about it , & still now .. from time to time all of the anger towards him comes back & I just CRY & cry . But I've learned to enjoy life no matter what , I'm not letting some nasty minded guy ruin my life like it happens to other kids . I'm a happy girl , at least when my anger issues don't get to me . & I'm very open minded. I encourage you people who went thru something similar to learn that you shouldn't let anybody make your life not worth living for , yeah something happend .. but just be thankful you have a life , air , food , water & everything you do have.

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Oct 06, 2011

Vanessa:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

While I applaud that you're not allowing a pervert to ruin your life, which tells me that you're very strong, the effects of child abuse can creep up on a person as they grow and mature and go through the various ages and stages of their life. It doesn't make a person weak when they are pulled down with the effects of being sexually abused (any kind of abuse). You yourself admit that you have anger issues. That in and of itself can be, and likely is, as a result of what you've endured. Quite likely more than what you've shared here given the living arrangements and who raised you. That anger will eventually get you into trouble, trouble that could put a whole different spin on where your life is headed. You're worthy of better than such trouble, Vanessa. Please talk to a counsellor at school about what you're feeling, especially when you get angry. A counsellor can help you, and there's no shame in asking for help. We all need help throughout our lives. None of us gets through life completely alone. Although right now the decision is yours to make, if you choose not to make it, that decision may be taken from you in the form of a court order if you do someone or something harm as a result of your anger. Deal with the anger, Vanessa. You're too important not to. And just for the record, sex offenders don't change their offending ways until they are made to stop. It is highly likely that P--- is sexually offending other children and that there are many other victims besides you. Please consider reporting what he did to you. Doing so could save another child from enduring what you were forced to endure. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Oct 14, 2011

You are worth the time
by: Jill

Vanessa,
To say that the story of your sexual abuse is not as bad as others is to not see yourself as equal to everyone else out there. And you are equal!

I have to say that any sexual abuse, even touching or oral, is sooo harmful to a child. It felt bad to you, because it was! That kid was a budding pedophile. Our legal system sets measures of how bad abuse is because it's designed to decide who gets put behind bars and who doesn't. That is all it does. There is no such thing as mild sexual abuse.

Validate yourself, you were abused and it matters! Take time to go back and pick up the loose ends that are hanging because it does matter and it isn't a little thing. You are so worth the time it takes.

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