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Child Abuse Story From Unhappy and Resentful Mom

by Unhappy and Resentful Mom
(Texas, USA)




Sexual Abuse...my nephew hurt my son: 
On Wednesday this past week me, my son and daughter went to Wal-Mart. We got out of my truck and saw my mother, sister, and my mother's bestfriend walking down the same row of cars we were on. I diverted my children from them because I don't speak to them anymore. We were in there maybe 15 min and went to pick my oldest son up from high school. We got home and my 8 year old son asked to speak to me. He proceeded to ask me if I remember my sister and her son and then said he's gay. I asked why and he said when he was 4 he put his penis in his mouth. I freaked out in my head but consoled my son. When he was 4 and my daughter was 5 I kept my nephew so my sister could go to a Christmas party in another town. I came home from work @ about 730pm. I sold cars at the time. I brought home pizza for them. I talked to my husband for a few minutes and went inside, when I walked in my 4 year old walked around the corner with his pants undone and he was pulling them up. I asked what he was doing and my nephew said he had to go to the bathroom so he helped him. My 4 year old said no you did this. I freaked out and made him go outside. I called my sister to come get him and went searching my house. I found condoms, which no one in our home used at the time, plastic tampon applicators in my daughters closet. We all confronted him and he admitted to "touching" them. I'm scared my daughter has repressed her memories just like my son did until recently @ Wal-Mart. She was diagnosed with adhd and anxiety disorder and takes meds daily. I wonder if she could be repressing too. Why did he remember that? I want my nephew to fry for this. I'm having a hard time with dealing and its starting to consume me. I don't know if should I have my 9 year old daughter checked to see if her hymen is broken.




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Child Abuse Story From Unhappy and Resentful Mom

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Nov 05, 2011
To Unhappy Mom:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The fact that the abuse was never reported when it first happened makes it extremely difficult to prove after all this time. It's the word of your child(ren) over the word of another. Without evidence, not much can usually be done. However, if there have been other reports of sexual abuse, that would only help your case, and that of the other parties. And just for the record, it's a myth to expect a 4-year-old to not remember trauma. Some don't, but many do. Repressed memories surface for a multitude of reasons: a jogged memory, like with your son after seeing your family members at WalMart; reaching a certain age or stage in one's life. Now that your son does remember, do what you must in order to protect him and get him the help he needs. The fact that you've stopped all contact with your family is a good thing under the circumstances. But that isn't enough to protect your children from any repercussions. Taking your daughter in to see if her hymen is broken will only tell you whether or not her hymen is broken. It won't tell you how it was if it is. And if you try to force memories with your daughter, you'll create a lot of problems for her and for any possible case against this child sex offender. Report what your son told you, then report what you know about your daughter. Let the investigators do the investigating. Beyond this comment, there really isn't much I can offer you. I'm sorry, but I created this site for people to be heard. Given the various laws around the world, I cannot give advice that can help you on the legal front. You'll have to consult a lawyer and CPS to determine what recourse, if any, you have. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I wish you and your children all the best.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Nov 06, 2011
Re: hymen
by: Anonymous

Yes -- please don't take your daughter to see if her hymen is broken. As Darlene said, it won't prove anything about how it broke if it is broken, but to do exam could definitely be traumatizing.

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