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Child Abuse Story From Trudy

by Trudy
(USA)




Don't know what to do: 
My mom works at night every other week. My sister and me are home lots of time with my stepfather. I was only 6 when she married him. I think this all started a couple years ago. Or maybe longer but I was too young to realize what he was doing. Now I'm almost 13 and my sister is almost 10, and it gets very humiliating.

He walks right in on me and my sister when we are naked and sometimes does it even when my mom is at home. I told her a couple times but she thinks I am being silly and insists he doesn't do it on purpose. At night he goes about the house in his underwear even when my mom is home.

He has come in the bathroom many times when I'm in the tub or shower, supposedly to get something out of the closet or medicine drawer. He does the same with my sister and never fixes the door lock that has been broken for a couple years. I didn't mind it when I was younger, I suppose, but now I am getting breasts and am very embarrassed when he sees me naked. He pretends he doesn't look at us, but I see him staring at me and my sister a lot. My sister isn't as shy as I am and I don't think she is that embarrassed yet.

We have both seen him naked many times and most of the time it's when my mom is at work. He has never touched me or tried to molest me, but I don't like him seeing me naked and I don't like to see him naked. He never touches my sister either; I already asked her if he did.

My mom doesn't understand how he does things to embarrass me, and I keep asking her to fix the lock on the bathroom door. Sometimes I put the hamper in front of the door, but he just pushes it out of the way when he comes in. Sometimes he stays and tries to talk to me, and I know he is looking at my privates and he just smiles at me.



Lately when he is in his bathrobe, both me and my sister can see he doesn't have any underwear on and can see his penis. My mom saw his robe open last month but just told him to close it.

I stopped going into my mom's bedroom a long time ago because he sleeps naked all the time. He is nice to us except for trying to see us naked. I am so afraid every time I'm getting dressed or in the bathroom. He has even walked in when me or my sister were on the toilet.

My mom thinks I am paranoid about it, but she doesn't know how humiliating it is for me. She said she spoke to him about it, but he told her he doesn't know what I'm talking about and he never does it purposely. I know he is lying, but my mom believes him.

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Child Abuse Story From Trudy

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Jan 15, 2009
If your mother won't listen, you need to take the next step...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Trudy, you have every right to insist on privacy. And whether or not your stepfather has molested you, he is being highly inappropriate. Your mother needs to take your protests and claims very seriously. If she continues to brush off your valid concerns, you need to talk to someone who will take them seriously, because you and your sister ARE at risk. Your stepfather's inappropriate behaviour needs to be addressed and stopped. If you're uncomfortable talking to a school counsellor about what is happening at home, please contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, but they can help you

Don't continue to suffer alone with this, Trudy. You've been very brave to disclose on this site what's happening to you and your sister. Now you need to take the next step in order to get this resolved. You and your sister are too precious to not be taken seriously.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 15, 2009
sorry
by: dana

mrs darlene, im sorry you thought my last comments were bad but thats how i feel about men who do stuff like trudys dad and yes, i was mad when i wrote that stuff.

From Darlene: I understand, Dana; and your apology is very graciously accepted. I felt your comments more inappropriate than "bad", because as a Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator I do not permit my visitors to promote violence, even when it may seem to be justified. The best way to respond to a story contributor is to offer validation, support and encouragement, which I see you've done for more than one story contributor. I do hope you'll continue to offer encouraging comments to those who write their stories on my site. I'll look forward to reading them.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir


Jan 16, 2009
tell me this
by: dana

i am a Christian and i like alotta people who have been abused wanna know y God allows that to happen in His world. is He givin abusers kids because He wants to see how they treat the kids or is there somethin else?

Jan 19, 2009
Reply
by: George

Trudy: You do indeed have the right to privacy. My dad had no sense of privacy or respect for personal space either. I certainly sympathize with your desire to have private uninterrupted space. I second taking this to the next step if your mom won't take your complaints seriously.

Dana: God doesn't want kids to be abused. It certainly is not the case that He is gifting them to a bad set of parents. We live in an imperfect and broken world and child abuse is a very unfortunate result of that. I'll also say that it has been my faith that has kept me sane.

Jan 26, 2009
Tell On the Pervert!!!
by: Linda

Trudy, please call those hotline numbers, Darlene listed for you after your story. Your Stepfather is a pervert. A grown man who likes to look at little girls naked is as bad as a Pedifile who actually molests little girls! It is just a matter of time before HE takes it a step farther. My uncle did the same things to me and finally went physical with me. It makes me sick to think of it now. Don't let that sick man ruin you and your sister's lives. Call the hotline and tell on him!

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