Child Abuse Story From Tiana

Child Abuse Story From Tiana

by Tiana
(New South Wales, Australia)

My story might not seem bad...but it's something I will never forget. I wasn't the only one going through it at the time, but my little nephew can't remember it. I was only 5 years old and my nephew was 2. He lived with his mother, his new born brother and stepfather. Every weekend I stayed there.

One night, I was sitting on the lounge with my nephew when my sister's boyfriend came out and pulled his pants down and shoved his ass in my face. He started to talk dirty and lots more stuff. A couple days later, he got angry at my 2-year-old nephew and shoved him in a dog kennel, and then wet him with a hose when the weather was only 15 degrees. My nephew then got really sick.

Whenever my mum would go over to see them, my nephew would be locked in the room, not allowed to come out. Sometimes my sister's boyfriend would be in there...we now think that he was sexually abusing my nephew. I wasn't made to keep it a secret, but I was only 5 and I didn't know it was wrong.

I'm now 13, and it was only last year I told my mum. She promised to keep it a secret, but she got really angry because if I had told her when I was young she would have charged him, but she said it's to late now. I see this guy around all the time. It was only a couple weeks ago I saw him with his girlfriend and he was walking my way. When he saw me, he turned around and walked the other way and kept on turning back, looking at me. When I told my mum, she said he had done the same thing to her a couple of days before.

I hope this guy trips and dies...because child abuse is wrong!

Every night when I sleep, that is all I dream about. It is something I will never forget!

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Dec 29, 2007

A promise your mother SHOULD NOT keep...
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

It's secrets like this that perpetuate the problem of child abuse, Tiana. Everyone is afraid of the repercussions with family, friendships, etc., but everyone forgets the victim of the abuse.

I don't know what the statute of limitations is for reporting known or suspected child abuse in Australia—perhaps one of my Australian visitors can help out in this regard—but I would still report what I suspect. If for no other reason, to alert the authorities that this man has sexually abused in the past, and is therefore likely STILL offending. Reporting what happened to you and your suspicions of what he did with your nephew might well save another child from being molested. I sincerely hope this pervert is no longer involved in the life of your nephew.

I strongly urge you to speak with your mother about getting you some form of counselling, Tiana. You're dealing with a lot of guilt right now, guilt that you don't bear the responsibility for. At five years old, you could not be expected to act. Please don't continue to blame yourself; you were—ARE—not to blame, Tiana. It wasn't your fault. Don't for one more second take this on. You and your nephew were children; the rest of the people in your lives were the adults. It was THEIR responsibility to protect BOTH of you. I admire the fact that you DID tell your mother. That took a lot of courage.

And Tiana, what happened to you and the way you feel about what happened to your nephew is as difficult for you to deal with as the challenges faced by anyone else who has written a story for this site. When you're dealing with nightmares every night, that's hell; try not to minimize what you've been forced to deal with.

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It's secrets like this that perpetuate the problem of child abuse, Tiana. Everyone is afraid of the repercussions with family, friendships, etc., but everyone forgets the victim of the abuse. I don't know what the statute of limitations is for reporting known or suspected child abuse in Australia—perhaps one of my Australian visitors can help out in this regard—but I would still report what I suspect. If for no other reason, to alert the authorities that this man has sexually abused in the past, and is therefore likely STILL offending. Reporting what happened to you and your suspicions of what he did with your nephew might well save another child from being molested. I sincerely hope this pervert is no longer involved in the life of your nephew. I strongly urge you to speak with your mother about getting you some form of counselling, Tiana. You're dealing with a lot of guilt right now, guilt that you don't bear the responsibility for. At five years old, you could not be expected to act. Please don't continue to blame yourself; you were—ARE—not to blame, Tiana. It wasn't your fault. Don't for one more second take this on. You and your nephew were children; the rest of the people in your lives were the adults. It was THEIR responsibility to protect BOTH of you. I admire the fact that you DID tell your mother. That took a lot of courage. And Tiana, what happened to you and the way you feel about what happened to your nephew is as difficult for you to deal with as the challenges faced by anyone else who has written a story for this site. When you're dealing with nightmares every night, that's hell; try not to minimize what you've been forced to deal with.

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Jan 25, 2008

you can still do samething
by: ros nsw australia

Hello my name is ros and im a vitom of abuse yes you can still report the man that hurt you and your nephew it was wrong wrong wron for him to treat children like this you are only 13 i have a 13 year daughter with me and tiana she would is report this as her age you have a life ahead of you and you need to rest it knowing that he;s not walking the town getting away with what he did, the sytem is good here i have report my abuse after 27 year of keeping it to myself and yes they are listing to me, so its never to late sweetie, the thing her is they will want to talk to your nephew he may remeber same things he may not this will be the hard thing cause if he dosent remeber they may just take it on what he did to you and not your nephew please tiana i ask that you talk with you mum and report this man his never to late to report such abuse and he should never be able to walk free from this , im in nsw and wish for you to contacted me but not sure how this site work with giving out my email, so darlene are we able to give email out to be in touch and to help other;s in my town take care of your self tiana and i strongley get your mum to look at it more ros

Jan 25, 2008

To Ros:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I know your heart is in the right place, Ros, I really do; but I cannot permit an exchange of email addresses because there is no way to know for sure that it will get into the hands of the person you want it to. Nor can I guarantee that you would be directing it to the person you think you'd be directing it to.

People send me material every day; and they are completely anonymous to me. I have to take what they say to me in these submissions as truth. But there is no way to know for sure that they are who they say they are. I cannot take the chance that a minor child will be contacted by an adult with ulterior motives.

Please understand my position. The forums I've created on this site are a wonderful support for people, but with this type of forum comes a great deal of responsibility, a responsibility I take very seriously. So please try to understand the position I'm in with regard to any exchange of personal information on this site.

Thank you, Ros.

Jan 25, 2008

darlenne
by: ros nsw australia

hey darlene thats just fine i truely understand where you are at and i repect that very much as i see you protecting me as well thanks for getting back to me hey take care alway with angel blessing ros

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