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Child Abuse Story From Tarrah

by Tarrah
(Maryland, USA)




I was 10 years old. You were in your 50's. I was 10 I loved my grandparents, my father always dropped me off at their house because he wanted to be with his girlfriend. She didn't like me, because I was the daughter. I was always daddy's little girl until she came along. My grandparents always took me, i would stay at there house every weekend i was supposed to be with my dad. I was to young to understand anything, or realize what was really going on. I would sleep in the middle of my grandparents at night, everynight we would watch forest gump; i am now completely scard from that movie. My grandmother would fall asleep. My grandfather would fall asleep (so i thought) id try to fall asleep. I would start to feel hands on my body, my grandfather touching me, i thought he was doing it in his sleep until i got a little older to realize he wasn't sleeping and nobody could do that in their sleep. He even went to the extent to put his mouth on my breasts. I would get up and go into the other room feeling uncomfortable. One day. It took me and my cousin to find a home video, we always loved playing around with the video camera. I found a video of me sound asleep with my shirt up, and underwear on (i always wore that to bed) someone video taping me sleeping. They got closer, pulled my underwear down and there was my bare vulva on a camera. I knew it was my grandfather, no questions asked. I took the video to my mom, i kept quiet when I was with my dad. I was afraid to tell him, but i wasn't afraid of my mom. I told my mom we tried to watch it so she could know what I was talking about. We took it to the police. And The skit was gone. I needed my proof. The proof was gone, completely. He denied it. Everyone stopped beleiving me, and I was lost and everything got ignored. My mom and her side of the family beleive me from this day, but nobody else... They don't know the pressure and emotional effect they put on a 12 year old and to grow up upon that. I hope one day, it will turn from scars to stars. Until then, i still have hope. I want my time to shine. To this day I was forced upon that family always getting disrespected when I would come around, and I knew leaving that time being around my grandfather I would have to hug him, or I would be disrespected and treated horribly. And I would dread thinking about leaving. I am not speaking to my father to this day, i am now 17. A very wise bright girl, i just hope my day comes soon.






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Child Abuse Story From Tarrah

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May 25, 2011
Tarrah:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Please talk to your mother to ensure you never again have to be near the man who sexually abused you. And then speak to her about getting you the help you need in order to deal with what he did to you. You need and deserve that kind of help. Don't try and deal with this alone. And always remember that you did nothing wrong, nothing at all. In fact, you can be very proud of yourself for disclosing to your mother what you found. That took courage and resolve. Use that same courage and resolve to keep moving forward in your life, but get some help doing so. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

May 26, 2011
Tarrah
by: Sarah

Dear Tarrah:
I just want to say that, although I can never know exactly how you feel, your story sounds a lot like what my stepdad did to me. Please get help somehow. I was terrified of the idea of getting authorities involved, but if he still has access to you, I believe that is a good option. Because Child Protective Services was involved with me, my stepdad isn't allowed near me ever again. It's easier to heal when you know that your abuser can't even be in the same area as you. I still remember what it was like to feel truly safe for the first time in years.
I also wanted to say that you are SO SO SO BRAVE for telling. It took me over four years to do that, and I had to have CPS help me. and if I'm reading your story correctly, we are the same age and similar things happened to us at similar times. It's scary and confusing and I'm so sorry that it happened to you. I wish you the best! And once again, you are super brave and strong.

May 30, 2011
be brave: Be Strong: Love your beautiful Self
by: maurice

Tarrah: continue to have the courage withing you as you had to find Dalrene's site safe haven to tell and share your story: Read Darlene's comment to you take it into your heart: she has a great sense of all you wrote: And as Sarah wrote Although I can never know exactly how you feel: from a woman's point f view: I can truthfully say from my heart I can never know exactly why any adult especially an ageing grand parent would do what your Beast of a grand-father did to you: A total sicko's mind to do all he did: Follow Darlene's loving, encourageing, caring, concerned true from heart words to you: You'll be fine: You'll be a winner: Hi start today having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Oh yes Tarrah: Withing weeks/month's you will know the difference: Take part with like-minded people your own age and gender in Team sports I emphasize Team because it is there you will make real true natural friends for life with many aquaintances to put a smile on your face when ye meet: It will be new-beginnings for you to see the true you blossoming in your own right: You are gifted: You are tallented with leadership qualities to match: Share the all with others: There is safety in numbers too: having one/two freinds to share your intimate with is a precious jewel: once you follow guideleines from Darlene's heart you'll be fine: Live well: Laugh Often and love much: now get on with living your life to the full:

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