Child Abuse Story From Tammy A Concerned Parent
by Tammy
I was not abused but am concerned my son might have been by his grandfather on my ex-husband's side of the family. My son told me about an incident at my ex-in-laws house. He said he was in the "hot wheels room" it was a room for collectable hot wheels. He said he remembers him coming behind him and trying to "tickle" him and he was scared and was yelling for his mamaw, he said he was trying to keep him in the room. My ex-husband's other son has turned out to be homosexual, his brother's son is also homosexual, and in most cases of a homosexual person, they were abused in their childhood. About a year after I was married, there was a secret meeting that I was not told about by anyone when it happened as a matter of fact, my husband never told me about it, it was my sister-in-law. Supposedly my ex-husband had molested his youngest brother and they were going to have a meeting about it. My ex-husband said the meeting never happened that my sister-in-law was lying. I believed him. Later after we divorced he remarried and had a son, the girl he married had a son from a previous relationship. When they divorced and he got visitation with his son, he also took the other boy too. I heard that his ex-wife called CPS and reported that her son made some sexual allegations against him, something that happened in the shower. This again was something that was to be kept quiet in the family and I was never told of it except by my sister-in-law. Several years later, my daughter when to go live with my ex-husband and she told me there were a few occasions he said things to her that made her feel uncomfortable and she was also concerned for her younger sister that he has with his current wife. My ex-husband cheated on me with several young girls, the youngest was 12, he was 20 at the time, the other girls were 14-16. At the time I was young myself so I saw them more as competition as opposed to children who were being taken advantage of because I was so young myself. After 5 years I couldn't deal with it any longer. He then went on to marry and cheated on her, it lasted 2 years and they divorced, right away he married again and this time he has been married 18 years but cheats on her with young girls. I know this because my daughter tells me and is disgusted with him because of it but at the same time she will not tell her step-mother but she feels she has to protect him because she doesn't want to disrupt her sister's life. My ex-husband's brother was the same way and cheated on his wife. The youngest brother who is now 40 is basically a bum, doesn't work has always abused drugs and alcohol, one of his daughters even said at age 13 that she was bi-sexual. The parents have always taken care of the family to some degree finacially or they have cheated or scammed the government to get government aid ect. Two of the boys have a "secret" child with another woman while they were married. The grandfather also had affairs and has a "secret" child with another woman. So now that there is some background on the family, I think my concern is that, why is there so much sexual perversion in that family? Did the grandfather molest my ex-husband and then possibly 3 of the grandchildren? Did my ex-husband molest his brother and possibly his step-son or maybe even his own son? Was my son sexually abused or was there an attempt but it just didn't happen or my son doesn't remember because he has blocked it. He has displayed many of the characteristics of being sexually abused but I just don't know for sure and even if this did happen to him, he probably would not want to do anything about it because he wouldn't want anyone to know. Of all the grandkids, 7 are grown, the 4 youngest and 2 on the way are 8 and under, one is a boy and he is 6. I don't know what to think about all of this or if I should do anything or let it go as long as my son stays away and my daughter does not ever leave her children with her dad or grandfather. She has expressed concern and even said she has not left her son alone with them. She is currently expecting another boy. I started remembering all of these things when my son told me of the incident with his grandfather and there just seems to be too many things to think it is by chance that this happened only to my son or that the two oldest boys from my ex-husband and his brother just ended up being gay. I think something happened to them by someone in the family. Niether my sister-in-law or myself allowed our kids to stay with anyone other than family and the only person they have in common is the grandfather, I don't think it was my ex-husband because her son never stayed with him but both boys and my son were always with the grandparents when they were growing up. It is scary to think this could have happened and the potential for it to continue is still there but then I feel guilty too because the grandfather was always so nice and soft toned just a likable person and the kids loved him. My son never resisted going over there and I don't remember my sister-in-law saying anything about her son not wanting to go unless something happened when they were very young and they dont remember. I just dont know.  Note from Darlene: If I have not left a comment on your story, please understand that it is not personal; it's just that my hectic schedule no longer permits me to do so.I hope you'll follow me on:  Email addresses, phone numbers, home addresses AND website/blog URLs in submissions and visitor comments are STRICTLY prohibited. Please don't include them, as they will be removed.
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