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Child Abuse Story From Tamara

by Tamara
(New South Wales, Australia)




well, im not to sure how to put this, im not good at this stuff. it started when i had to stay at my dad's parents house for the night while the family went somewhere, i was only 6 or 7, i dont remember the dates or time but i remember the incident oh so well. my dad's step dad was touching me in innapropriate ways while i slept. i was so scared, i got up to go to the toilet and he had followed me and tried touching me while i was in the bathroom. i never wanted to stay there again, and i didnt tell anyone. but my parents made me stay there a few times (un-aware of what had happened) he made me sleep in his bed everytime i stayed, i remember always waking up and my pants and underwear wear always off the bed, on the other side. i eventually told my mother (via a note) one afternoon when 'nan & him' had dropped me off at home. we went to the police and i had tests and stuff done at the hospital, we had to travel around so i could see counsellors etc. then my sister (one year older then me) came forward and said he had tried touching her as well. mum was terrified, full of anger & pain. knowing someone we all trusted had did this to our family.




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May 20, 2011
Tamara:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

First and foremost, I am SO proud of you for understanding that HE did this to your family, that you didn't do this to them. That's half the battle, realizing this was not your fault. ALL fault lies squarely on HIS shoulders because he chose to offend. He's likely been offending for a very long time. I'm also SO proud of you and your sister for telling. Only through telling did the abuse stop. Be proud of yourself for speaking out. Doing so opened the door for your sister to also speak out; and that in turn opened the door for healing for both of you. Bravo to you, Tamara, bravo to you. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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From Victim to Victory, a memoir


May 21, 2011
VERY BRAVE
by: Anonymous

Tamara what you did was very brave! And it was completely the right thing to do! Nobody has a right to abuse others. And nobody has a right to breech the trust that naturally forms among relatives (even when they arent blood relatives as such they are STILL relatives). Adults should NEVER EVER do these things to children. All adults! Its not allowed, its not permitted, it simply isnt DONE! And if they feel entitled to do such a vile thing, then we need to stop them. You did an incredibly strong and beautiful thing. You helped yourself, your sister and your family. You stopped the abuse!!! We are all proud of you for speaking up!!!!

May 21, 2011
A good and true way of relating to parents
by: maurice

Through a note: Tamara: that gives ideas to others who may find it difficult to say it to a parent what/and who is abusing them: It is always nearly better to talk but writing a brief discription and who is doing what in abuse is letting one's true feelings be known: Darlene has sure opened her heart to you so read her comment take ownership of it and hug and love yourself for being so brave and so courageous to tell: Equally your sister: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body; Be active and alive with your own age and gender taking part in team sports and sporting and cultural activities: You'll make real friends for life: stay safe be safe: Stay in education: You are gifted: Tallented: You have leadership qualities: share them with your friends and team mates; A good captain: I'M SPECIAL; BE gentle and kind to yourself and your body make it beautiful by massageing scented oils and cream into it and then hugging it in front of the mirror: Saying I LOVE ME: Era go on there's no one looking at you you in the privacy of your bath room: or room

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