Child Abuse Story From Tamar

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Child Abuse Story From Tamar

by Tamar Y
(Location Undisclosed)

Sexual Abuse doesn't have to mean touching:
When I was 14 my dad was sitting on the couch next to me one night when I noticed heavy breathing and from the side of my eye I could see him moving around. I looked over to find him masturbating right next to me. My mom was on the other couch and there was no way she couldn't have seen what was going on. I got up and ran out of the room, went to the bathroom and locked myself in there and cried.
Till this day they haven't brought it up and it will probably never come up until I bring it up. I'm deathly afraid to because I'm afraid of losing the rest of my family if I do. I really don't care about losing my mom or dad or even talking to them ever again. What they did was wrong and Unforgivable.
Even though he didn't touch me, I always have been and still am traumatized by this experience. I have had nightmares growing up of him actually touching me and my mom standing in the background just watching and not doing anything about it.
I really don't remember much from my childhood because I feel i've blocked it all out as a defense mechanism. I wonder if that is what usually happens and if there's a way to get memories of my childhood back.

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May 04, 2011

Tamar:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You need help processing this. What your father did that night was wholly inappropriate. Whether or not you were sexually abused beyond what you were forced to witness (called non-contact sexual abuse) I cannot say. But I do caution you to not make assumptions about this just because you can't remember your childhood. Even though your father did what he did, it doesn't mean he (or your mother) went further. Many people don't remember a lot about their formative years, not because anything bad happened or they blocked something out, but rather because they simply don't have the recall. That's not to suggest you haven't been traumatized by what you saw. Obviously, this has adversely affected you. I strongly recommend you seek out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of what you witnessed, and to explore your concerns. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

May 05, 2011

So many sick people
by: Anonymous

Tamar, what your parents did to you was unforgivable. Oh, and as for your mom, shame on her for running away from you instead of protecting you from that beast of a father! I can't believe that she chose to just stand there and do nothing about that sicko offending you, so please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you!

May 05, 2011

I am very special: I am highly gifted: Always Believe in Yourself
by: maurice

Great you found Darlene's site: Now act on her true heart comment to you Tamar: I will I can I must because I am WORTH it: It is a safe place to begin to loving the beautiful and wonderful you Tamar: I'M SPECIAL; Yes, Darlene sure has given you her woman's heart empowering words of hope and encouragement: Combine them with having a healthy mind in a healthy body then Tamar you are on a winner for life: I know and I am convinced with my words of encouragement for you to become active and alive (Off your Bottom) with your friends, fellow students taking part in team sports and sporting and cultural activities your dreams, hopes and horizon will open out in a clearer picture for you: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: Going for counselling will empower you tooo and put what you experienced as a child in what your Ftaher did: will be totally put in perspoective: When you take part with like-minded people your own age and gender you'll bloosom and make real and natural friends for life: Love the ME looking out at you from the mirror: Hug and cuddle LOVE into yourself and your body: Value and respect your beautifulness of mind and body: Be gentle and kind to YOURSELF Tamar:

May 06, 2011

To Tamar
by: Mag

It sounds like you realize that this incident is NOT your fault and this is good. You are innocent. I am so sorry you experienced this but now you can heal from it with help from a counselor. Find someone who will listen, support and encourage you. You are strong.

May 31, 2011

Thank you guys for your support!
by: Tamar

Thank you guys for all your support. I will be moving out of my parents house this Saturday and as soon as I do i'm going to seek therapy and then open up to my sister about the incident.
I know she will be there for me and it will be a big load off my shoulders to tell her what has happened in the past.

Thank you!

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