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Child Abuse Story From Stephen

by Stephen H.
(Bridgnorth, United Kingdom)

At the age of 7, whilst on holiday with my parents, my mother informed me that I had been sleep walking and that for my own safety she would tie me to the bed at night to prevent me from sleep walking. This ritual continued until I was about 12 years of age. I was also subjected to other forms of abuse, including sexual abuse involving bondage, namely that my mother would tie my genitals with string. I was also made to wear very tight swimming trunks at night. I was not allowed to bathe alone. My mother would also assist me in the toilet.

Both of my parents were domineering and heavily relied on physical punishment as well as being verbally demeaning. My sister who is 15 years older than I, was/is almost certainly neurotic and my brother who is 2 1/2 years older also has personality difficulties, many of which he has discussed with me in the past. This includes a need to be spanked and visiting prostitutes for bondage.

Today I also have a need for bondage, CBT (male genital torture) and spanking. Nearly all of my relationships with women have been unhappy. I find Vanilla sex completely unrewarding.

From the age of 6 I was withdrawn and found it difficult to integrate with other children. I suffered school phobia and came to the attention of the truancy officer. Indeed, I can remember the police visiting my mother. During a conversation with Mrs G, the school truancy/welfare officer, I reported that I was being tied to the bed and to the loft hatch. She ignored this and it was never acted upon; such is authority.

I was also a victim of bullying, and in return I bullied anyone I thought was less than me. I would often get into trouble for being in fights and became increasingly violent at school. This culminated in my expulsion for trying to stab the gardening teacher with a garden fork after he hit me around the back of the head during a lesson. I left school and idled the day away. I understood that I was requested not to return to school.

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Child Abuse Story From Stephen

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Jul 05, 2008
Such courage and honesty...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You were certainly betrayed at every turn, Stephen: a physically, emotionally and sexually abusive mother; a father who was both an enabler and an abuser himself; a ridiculously double-standard school system that would allow a teacher to strike the head of a student, but expel that student for protecting himself against such blows; a blind and uncaring school system that would have a truancy officer outright ignore your plight in the face of a full disclosure. Every one of them should be made accountable. OF COURSE you would exhibit violent tendencies; who wouldn't!

Males who have been sexually offended against by their mother's all too often suffer in silence. Thank you, Stephen, for NOT staying silent. By telling your story here, other victims may come to realize that they are not alone. By telling your story, parents might come to realize that the "discipline" they impose on their children can have severe lifelong repercussions.

Stephen, you may have read some of the stories on this site written by men (and women too) who were molested by their mothers, some under the guise of "discipline," and my article on the issue of spanking and fetishes. In case you have not read the latter, you'll find it at the following URL:

Can childhood spankings be administered because of or lead to a spanking fetish?

Regardless of your sexual preferences, you still deserve a compassionate and loving relationship, Stephen. I sincerely hope you can find that for yourself.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 24, 2008
Spanked Abusively
by: Anonymous

Thanks for sharing Stephen. I was physically and sexually abused by my mom as well. She used a belt and always made me completely undress. A typical whipping was 20-30 swats on my butt and 10 on my penis. It hurt so much I thought I would die. I thought I was the only kid that got spanked this way.

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