Child Abuse Story From Stephanie

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Child Abuse Story From Stephanie

by Stephanie
(Buffalo, New York, USA)

I'm just incredibly sad for these people (who have been abused) and I hope that they have found the greater goods of life and were able to escape that awful life of theirs. I'm 13 years old and am going through the same thing right now, I think. I've been hit, shoved, and have had many horrible verbal and emotional fights with my mother many times before, but I don't really know if that's what you would call abuse. I would call someone but she would act as if nothing happened and she would deny it. After, she said, "Even if we do go to court no one will believe you."

For you others, I hope you are free of this horrible "Action" and I will pray for you every day.

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May 25, 2009

I can tell you are a very compassionate and caring person...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Stephanie, it certainly sounds as though you are suffering from abuse. Being hit and shoved is not right. But you need to understand that in the USA, parents have the right to spank their children, much as I find this "right" just plain wrong. Emotional abuse is the most difficult to prove, but it has the greatest repercussions.

In order for you to get a better understanding of child abuse, I point you towards three pages here on my site:

Whether or not what is happening to you falls under the accepted and/or legal definition of what constitutes child abuse, what's important to understand, Stephanie, is that you are experiencing effects from the treatment (mistreatment) you are getting at home; effects that could be very long lasting. You are in a lot of pain, and you need help for that. Talk to a school counsellor or a trusted teacher, or perhaps the parents of a good friend. I also suggest you contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what you are dealing with at home. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose any abuse you are suffering.

The fact that your mother says to you that no one will believe you is a sign that she knows what she's doing is wrong and abusive. She is very troubled and needs help herself. But that is not something you can tell her or find for her. She is on her own for that.

It's not your fault that your mother is doing these things to you. You don't deserve to be mistreated. You deserve and are worthy of love and nurturing and dignity and respect. Always remember that.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jun 01, 2009

Prayers
by: Judy

Hello Stephanie - My heartfelt prayers go out to you. It would be nice if these parents could be recorded in some way. It may seem risky but there are ways of proving emotional abuse - cell phones or any type of recording device will work. This is on advisable for those who know how to operate equipment and can remain discreet. I just try to rack my brain and come up with ways that abuse can be proven because so many times the cases don't hold up in court unless there is some concrete evidence. Please stay safe and have faith - be strong, you can do it! Best wishes for you, Judy.

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