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Child Abuse Story From Sophia

by Sophia
(Location Undisclosed)




I was about 7 or 8 years old when I was sexually abused by my aunt and her boyfriend. She was around 16 and he was 18 at the time & knew exactly what they were doing. We were in her bedroom that was in a very religious Catholic home owned by our grandparents. She had told me that we were going to color in a coloring book & then said we were going to have sex with an excited voice. At the time i thought it was a fun thing to do by the tone she used but little did i know what she was really up to. Our family including my parents, aunts & uncles were also all in the living room in the house talking & mingling amongst each other & had no idea what was going on. *Sam, my aunts boyfriend sat in a chair in the corner of the room smoking a cigarette. I was finishing up my coloring when she laid on the bed with nothing but a long sleep shirt on. She then told me to come lay beside her & to kiss her. She began to put her hands on my chest & my genital area & began to finger me. Her boyfriend then started to kiss me & pull out the crayons that i was coloring with & began to finger me with them & put them in my genital area & started to put other objects in & out as well. He then took his pants off & began to have his way with me. After awhile of him having his fun he stopped & left the house for the night. My aunt started kissing me again & then as soon as she was taking my clothes off, my mother walked in & began to yell at her & took me out of the room. My mom had told the family what had happened & nobody believed her & thought she was out to get attention. My dad on the other hand became furious being that it was his sister who had done the crime. Nothing happened after that except for my parents never talking to her again to this day. I still have flashbacks of what happened that day/night & become very angry. I am not trying to find a spiritual way of dealing with it. Not much luck with that yet.




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Child Abuse Story From Sophia

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Feb 04, 2010
Sophia:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You need to talk to someone about what happened to you. You can't keep dealing with this alone. Please consider some form of counselling. A professional can help you deal with the anger, and your feelings of betrayal and abandonment. While your parents may have thought they were doing you a favour by not doing anything about your aunt, they in effect brushed everything under the carpet. Your feelings associated with that need to be dealt with too. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Feb 04, 2010
Words really fail me
by: Anonymous

Sophia, your aunt (if one would even call her that) is a truly disgusting and sick excuse of a human being and she really should be locked up in prison with her slimy boyfriend together...so the sooner you tell someone, the better. Darlene is right. Sophia, please tell someone you really trust.

Feb 06, 2010
Be Brave, Be strong, persevere in your efforts to get real help.
by: maurice

Annonymouse in her comment expresseses real Love to you in her comment. Behind is annonymouse is a wonderful human person who was abused being a visitor to Darlen's site. I and anonymouse emphatise with you greatly. We both know now Darlene is one very special woman. With a heart of gold for each one of her visitors. She know the power of her site to each one including YOU telling their story of abuse. She speaks from her heart with a professional mind having been trained to understand the effects of abuse on children/teenagers/adolecents/young adults. Her comment to you is truly for you. I am gob smacked that your Aunt and her BOy friend would have abused you in the next room with a full house of family. She certainly did not give a damn about being caught with her and your pants down. even allowing her boyfriend to molest you. Both are very sick people. Your parents I am sure LOVE you but did you an injustice by not getting her and her boyfriend put far away from children especially family extended family children. Violence beget violence so congrats to your parents especially your Father for not tearing her apart once he found out. Let justice take it's course. Your Dad is a good man for that. I am not sure if I would have been as strong. With your parents help, or that of your closest friend get counselling, you will empower yourself, you will make a real sense of your feelings and effects around the abuse they perpetrated on you. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body, become active and alive with your own age group in sporting and cultural activities. Your mind will be opened up naturally. mixing and intergrating with others in healthy pursuits widens your horizons of your beautiful and gifted SELF. Always believe in yourself. Darlene has been loving of you in her comment. Me anonymous want what is best for you that will make you happy. We know if you take action and get help, the type Darlene know will do you a power of good. I can, I will, I must because I am worth it. build up your own SELF ESTEEM. Look in that mirror and see the wonderful beautiful me in it.Be gentle and kind to yourself and your natural beautiful body. Make beautiful those parts your AUNT and her boyfriend abused in your innocence and vunerability. Hi you were a big girl even then to know that she was wrong. Be bigger now and get the help Darlene knows is best for you.

Feb 13, 2010
i had a typo
by: Anonymous

The second to the last sentence of what i wrote pertaining to "I am not trying to find a spiritual way", i had a typo & actually am trying to find a spiritual way of dealing with the situation. Any comments or suggestions would greatly be appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to read my story.

Feb 21, 2010
Dear Sophia
by: Anonymous

Dear Sophia,

I am deeply sorry. What they did to you was horrible, disgusting and atrocious. I am so sorry. But I read that you are looking for a spiritual way to deal with things. Let me just say that that is how you will truly come to love your life and who you are. I've had a lot of struggles in my life, not abuse, but I've dealt with so many hardships and endured a lot of grief. I didn't know how to deal with it until I encountered Jesus. I'm going to write down a poem called Footprints that I believe sums up how much God truly cares for you.

"One night a man had a dream. He dreamed He was walking along the beach with the LORD. Across the sky flashed scenes from His life. For each scene He noticed two sets of footprints in the sand. One belonging to Him and the other to the LORD.

When the last scene of His life flashed before Him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of His life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times of His life.

This really bothered Him and He questioned the LORD about it. LORD you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life there is only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most you would leave me.

The LORD replied, my precious, precious child, I Love you and I would never leave you! During your times of trial and suffering when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

Things in life hurt us all the time, especially something like your situation, which has almost brought me to tears. But I promise you if you depend on God, although you will still endure hardships, you will have Him on YOUR side!
"Draw near to the LORD and He will draw near to you."- The Catholic Bible.

God Bless you,
Have faith and I know you'll find true happiness.

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