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Child Abuse Story From Sofia

by Sofia
(Tamil Nadu, India)




I am Sofia and I am now 21. After reading the stories posted here I feel that these were much more than what I faced. I grew up in a home for children from the age of 6 to 14. After my mother's death, my father got married to another woman and he gave me to the home. The warden of the home had full control of the students. So whatever may be the problem it should be reported to him. Even for simple mistakes he would ask us to turn to a wall and ask us to pull our skirt up exposing our buttocks and he would cane us with all his might. It is a home for boys as well as girls. So it is a very humiliating punishment. The female warden also does the same thing.

One day the warden called me to his room. I went inside thinking that he is going to give the same punishment but this time he talked so softly and asked whether my skin under my underwear is paining or not. He slowly got his fingers under it. I was standing simply and didn't restrict it. He made me to undress and asked me to remove his dress also. He then pushed me to the bed and raped me. I don't know why I didn't shout or ask for help. After coming out of the home I came to know that almost all girls have been raped by him. Many a times the punishment was to stand naked and do erotic actions in front of boys. We were also shown porn movies which we watched along with boys.

Now I am far from that place and heard that the home was closed.

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Child Abuse Story From Sofia

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Aug 14, 2009
You faced a LOT...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Sophia, and I hope you are now safe.

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Darlene Barriere
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Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Aug 14, 2009
The abuse of power and trust must be easily the most devious of wrongs done to children
by: Maurice

Oh Sofia, you sure went through the most horrific of abuses at the hands of this man his wife. What a den of iniquity for all you innocent and vulnerable teens. To be humiliated by the physical beatings and to be raped by this animal of a human being. He certainly abused his position of trust to do these awful things to you and the other girls. You are a brave to tell Darlene and her many visitors the truth about it all. Letting go of the memories, the scars, will take you time Sofia. You need to share this with people whom you can trust, who will believe you. Please get the help of a therapist/counsellor. I sincerely hope this Man has been punished by the authorities for his horrid actions on you and the girls especially in this home. I am sure the boys were equally effected by being abused in all that was perpetrated by this Awful Couple. Will you make sure they are taken out of this place and society for life and put in a place that they will feel the severe pain of all that they did to you. Hi Sofia, don't let them be the winners, You are truly one very special child of God and the Universe in your own right. Your life now is fully in your own hands. Begin slowly to acknowledge your own prettiness/beauty as a female. love. begin to love your body and yourself just to erase the bad and sad memories you have because of all that happened you. Sofia with your real and true friend(s) and professional help slowly build up your very own self esteem and self worth. Have a big mirror image of yourself. Look in it and see the wonderful and beautiful you in it. Soothe away those scars by being gentle and kind to your body. Hug your self from time to time and say I LOVE ME. I'M SPECIAL. RESPECT YOURSELF AND ALWAYS MAKE SURE YOU ARE RESPECTED BY OTHERS: Be true to your self for true peace of mind and for the good of your health. Live well, laugh alot, LOVE much OK

Aug 14, 2009
Perverts for Wardens
by: Anonymous

Sofia, that disgusting excuse of a warden (if one would even call him that) is a pervert and really should've been locked up in prison with his slimy fellow warden together. I'm so sorry about what you, along with your fellow rape victims, went through and I will pray for you guys. Be brave and stay strong...and I hope you try counselling.

Aug 18, 2009
have faith
by: Anonymous

oh.. this was the worst thing i have ever heard. the humiliation and the pain are very bad and will take time to get through it. do keep your faith in jesus christ and try to forget all these things.

Aug 19, 2009
Still feeling the pain of your abuse
by: maurice

Sofia, just because I posted my feelings in my comment after reading your sad and panful abuse story in that Home. Faith in God and His Son Jesus will slowly but very surely with all the human and real help you seek in your healing from the humiliation, pain and the memories of it all. You are young and beautiful now in your own right, your aticulated all that happened to you and the other girls at thet hell of a place for you all. These Wardens have pervertly ruined your life and that of the other girls. Your faith will help you, But you must LOVE your wonderful and beautiful self. You are all that matters NOW. please get professional help. Let those who love and respect you for who you are now be your inner strength in doing that. In front of the mirror Say I love me because I am beautiful, I am wonderful, I'm Special, I'm Unique in my own right now as a child of God and a child of the Universe. Make beautiful by being gentle and kind all those areas that were pervertly abused by this horrible man. Soothe away the bad memeories replace them slowly by soothing and erasing the effects of what happened. I am the most wonderful and beautiful woman now in my own right. Pray that all at that Home heal slowly but surely from al that happened them. I can. I will, I must just for me. Success to you Sofia.

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