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Child Abuse Story From Simply Surviving

by Jay W
(Florida, USA)




6 years ... That's all it took to damage and scar a little girl for the rest of her life...i am a survior of sexual assault and sexual abuse. i was molested by my uncle for 6 years as a child. everything innocent and pure was robbed from me at the age of 4 and continued till i was 10. this is our family secret... i was treated like a grain of sand, the situation was never resolved, no punishment for the "man" who did this to me... it was simply "swept under the rug" ...my WHOLE ENTIRE FAMILY KNEW AT ONE POINT OR ANOTHER THAT IT HAD HAPPENED, my mother,my father, my grandparents and even close family friends..and nothing was ever done about it. I was expected to "deal" with it.. and to be honest for many years i "thought" i was okay, i thought i had made peace with it, i thought i could live my life like a normal person. and for many years i put a smile on my face and pretended that i was strong enough to forget it happened. i met my husband, fell in love and he made a promise that he would love me no matter what. and to this day he has kept that promise. we found out 6 months after being married that we were going to have our beautiful daughter...it was when i held my beautiful daughter for the first time 2 years ago that i came to realize that i was definitely NOT okay. i looked at her precious face and knew that i would do anything to protect her. i have lived with this secret for many years and i will always be haunted by what happened to me... but justice will be served. this family secret was just that, a secret for many years... but im done being quiet, im done pretending it didnt happen. i know ive hit rock bottom on more than one occasion, ive done my fair share of wrongs, ive cried myself to sleep and i know at times i will crumble... but know this... I HAVE SOMETHING TO PROVE, A WRONG THAT MUST BE MADE RIGHT, AND I WILL STEP ON ANYONE'S TOES TO MAKE SURE I AM HEARD!!!!!!!! i am not a victim ... i am a survivor.. so please do not feel sorry for me. the point im getting to is just this.... when given the chance to right your wrong... i strongly suggest you do so in a timely manner. at least then you have some say in the outcome!






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Aug 10, 2011
Jay:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You ARE a survivor. You are now taking the pain you suffered and turning it into power. And no matter the outcome of speaking out and insisting justice be done, you WILL keep your precious daughter safe. Of that I have no doubt. Thank you for sharing your story and your all-important message with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Aug 11, 2011
ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:
by: maurice

I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: Because I am WORTH it; as is my beautiful girl: My husband: You are amazing The Architect of my own destiny: Courageous: willing to take chances to prove yourself right and to Nail That Etc Etc for taking away your childhood, self respect, dignity as a vunerable and innocent beautiful little girl: It is unrepeatable what I would do to him out of total respect For Darlene and all her wonderful visitors whom we all can empatise with you: Thank You: You are a winner; A victim in to victory over your abuser: Good on you: Be Brave: Be strong: persevere at getting justice for your lost years because of this sicko and all your family who stood idly bye: Live well: Laugh Often: Love much: beginning always with yourself and then share it about:

Aug 15, 2011
UPDATE
by: simply surviving

I am currently awaiting to hear when the date of the trial is. And my therapist said that my progress "is an inspiration" to her. I strongly believe that happiness is a choice so many of us victims forget we can choose... But I am choosing to rise above.. beat the statistics, and be my own person. I will not be defined by what happened to me, but instead try to be a light for others who have suffered like myself. I am strong! And I can/ will achieve everything I am aiming to do! I will update throughout this process ... And hopefully i can help someone too.

Nov 09, 2011
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by: Anonymous

thankyou

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