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Child Abuse Story From Sim

by Sim
(Texas, USA)




Wow, where to start...my physical abuse began when my biological mother met her second husband, I was about eight. Since I could remember, she always told me she hated me. "oooh, I hate you, stupid little b***ard. You look just like your daddy. I cant stand you". Then the physical abuse began. I used to get BEATINGS. Stripped naked, placed in the shower, wet, then beat with an extension cord. Or, stripped naked then beat with the belt buckle. I also have asthma, due to her smoking while pregnant. If I had an asthma attack at night and needed medication, waking her would mean being punched, kicked, or sometimes just being denied treatment. I would pass out at times due to the inability to breathe. I passed out one of these times and woke up to find Id soiled my drawers. T---, (my mom) forced me to eat my feces. I went to school and told my counselor. T--- denied it, and when I got home, she held me by my shoulders and kneed me in the testicles twice. I was always underweight as a child. I have 3 younger sisters who all weighed more than me when I left on my 17th birthday. Everyone in the household was obese, except me, who was literally starving. I was made to eat a piece of bread w peanut butter and roaches on it once. I spent my life in a corner from age 9 to about 11. 16 hours a day or more in a corner. When I hit about 12, I started working. I failed 6th grade because I went to work with my stepfather ( who also saw me as his personal punching bag) during school and summer hours. He is the one responsible for most of the black eyes and busted lips I suffered. When I got a little older, I started running away. The police would bring me back, and then I was in trouble. T--- would lay me on the bed, face down, sit on my head while R--- beat me. I would black out at times. The first time I ran away and caught this beating, my back bled through my shirt the next day at school. I was a child that HATED summer time. I knew I would be lucky to eat anything, but still had to go work in the summer heat. I can never forget working one summer before ninth grade. I worked HARD all summer under the guise of working for my school clothes. When it was time to go shopping, we went garage sailing. At one house there were shoes of all kinds for sale. Im a guy, so I found some old nikes for $1. T--- said no, and instead made me buy some pink pony shoes that were the same price. My outfit first day of school consisted of pink pony shoes, oversized bell bottom baby blue cordarroys, and a yellow dress shirt. This was in 1992. During all these years, I did ALL of the house cleaning, laundry and etc in the house. When I left that hellhole on my 17th birthday, I was 6'1, 90 lbs. My sisters were about 11, 7 and 5 when I left. Since then T--- has brainwashed and lied to them, making them believe I deserved all of this. Telling them I caused her to miscarriage once, and even worst, saying I molested them as babies. This, of all the abuse I suffered, is the worst. Ive always loved my sisters, and now I have no contact with them because of her lies. T--- did all of this in the name of Christianity. No wonder Im atheist. The last thing T--- told me was this: "Yeah, so what if I did abuse you? Grow up and move"...kinda hard to do when everytime I look in the mirror, I see my handsome face riddled with the multiple scars T--- and R--- left me with.






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Dec 03, 2011
Sim:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You are not the product of what these two twisted excuses for human beings did to you. Such crimes need to have serious jail time attached to them. Whether or not they ever do spend time in jail, they themselves are in a prison of sorts. A prison of their own making. A prison of hell. You're the free one now, Sim. You no longer have to put up with their physical abuse. Yes, it's so challenging that they have poisoned the minds of your sisters. There's not much you can do about that. You can't control or change what others think or do, you can only control what you do and how you respond. The high road would be to make the very best life possible for your Self. Get educated. Work at something you are passionate about. Treat your Self with the dignity, respect and love you were so sadistically denied. And you ARE worthy of that dignity, respect and love. You ARE lovable. The messages these barbaric people left you with are lies, every one of them. Please seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you deal with the repercussions of coming from such a horrid environment. You didn't deserve to be abused, Sim. You most definitely deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Dec 03, 2011
sorry
by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry to hear everything you've gone through. I'm also sorry to hear that your mother caused you to think Christianity has anything to do with abusing children. Please try not to associate God with all the bad things your parents put you through. God IS love, and if anyone can get you through this, its Him. Everything that happens to us God allows to happen for a reason. I pray that you'll find forgiveness and strength in your life to come.

Dec 04, 2011
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Sim, I can't believe that your dad would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick, sadistic monster of a mother and even her slimy second husband and allow them to beat, torture and berate you 24/7...how dare he! They're really sadistic brutes...and if they didn't want to be there, they should've had the courage to give you up for adoption instead of sadistically abusing you. The path that those animals chose is inexcusable. Oh, and all those nasty lies that they said to you are nothing but lies. Mature, stable adults don't beat the crap out of anyone, especially their own precious children; mature, stable adults don't call anyone names, especially their own precious children; mature, stable adults don't force their own kids to eat feces nor cockroaches; mature, stable adults don't neglect their own kids for getting an asthma attack; mature, stable adults don't force their kids to wear ridiculous clothes to school, let alone just to humiliate them; mature; stable adults don't starve their own kids; only mentally sick, deeply disturbed people would resort to such childish tactics. Those monsters are really acting like little 1-year-olds trapped in grown-up bodies because they are still stuck in their own childhood. Your life shouldn't have been used as a pawn for their immature, sick, sadistic misery (they're miserable because they chose to be that way) as well as their ignorant ugliness. Oh, and beating you, starving you and making you eat feces and cockroaches alone are just enough to throw those horrific, poor excuses of humans to jail. Oh, and they're wrong to even claim that you "deserved to be abused by them, blah blah blah". You didn't deserve to be abused and tortured; you only deserved love, protection, dignity and respect, all of which you were sadistically denied of and those cowards have no respect for you and your rights as a human being and they proved that just by the horrendous injuries that they inflicted upon you. They had a mindset that you were to be submissive and obedient at every single cost. What they did to you is assault and they should be imprisoned for that. Children are gifts to treasure, not to be abused. Oh, and did I mention that they even used religion to abuse you as well? That's not devotion; that's just despicable. You are not to blame for their sadistic, miserable, cowardly, ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you. Thank goodness you survived and found a safe place to stay, I just hope that you try counselling and look into reporting those sadistic beasts to prison.

Dec 10, 2011
Your thoughts on God
by: Anonymous

Dear Sim,

I can empathize with how you must feel about God. I was also abused as a child and many years later I asked my mom about it and she said, "Well, the Bible does say that you should physically discipline your children." I was so extremely hurt by that and I felt like she was basically saying, "Oh-well, get over it."

After doing some research I found that the Bible does in fact say, "Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him" (Proverbs 13:24). And there's many other verses that reflect the same tone. Personally, the most damaging people in my life were also some of the most religious people I have known. These people must not have read much of the Bible, because other versus state that, "Children have a special place in God’s heart and anyone who harms a child is inviting God’s wrath upon Him. Jesus said, 'Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these' (Mark 10:14). Then He took the children in His arms and blessed them (v. 16).

If people are using the Bible to rationalize their actions and justify their violent behaviors, they are both sick AND uneducated. I still find it difficult to say that I do in fact believe in God. I'm just not ready for that yet, but it does bring me some peace in knowing that there are other things in the Bible that refute what my mother so stupidly expressed.

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