Sexual assault is NEVER the victim's fault...EVER! by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster
Thank you for sharing more of your story with my visitors and me, Shayla. I've already commented in a comment thread elsewhere on this site on your statement about the sexual assault being your fault. But for the sake of other visitors, sexual assault is NEVER EVER EVER the victim's fault. No one EVER "asks" to be sexually assaulted. To say that you "asked for it" is to blame yourself for the criminal actions of someone else. As for "not acting like a rape victim", with all due respect, your mother doesn't know what she's talking about. It is not at all uncommon for victims to show no outward signs at all. Clearly, you've shown BOTH inward and outward signs. She's allowing her own biases to cloud her ideas. I suspect it's her way of not taking responsibility for her part in it all. I can only hope that you have access to more counselling, Shayla. You need a lot of help to deal with the repercussions of being so badly abused by so many. I wish you all the best.
Shayla slowly begin to LOVE yourself then respect that beautiful body of yours. Be gentle and kind to your body beautiful. Oh yes it is because it is your body. Value it, admire it, slowly erasise the abuse of it by others who used you and your innocence and vunerability. You are not to blame. Darlene has loved you with her comment to you. just read over again and again soak in her gentle words of love, support, helpfulness, encouragement and really affirming you in your own right. She knows where you are at in the telling of your story. She understands, she too has been through the pain of abuse. She's a winner over it and now cares about all her many visitors whom she set up her site for. She truly was visionary in setting it up. She wants each of us to live our lives to the full. Shayla please talk to a counsellor who will help you to heal and to Love your wonderful and beautiful self. Look in that mirror today and begin the process of loving and caring for that beautiful body of yours. It's all yours Shayla. be nice to it, be gentle with it, caress and cuddle it with your own arms. soothe it all over with creams letting go of the not so nice memories of what those aniamls of the male species did to it. With the approval of a MOTHER who should have been protecting you from it all. You will be the winner and you will have a good life. try and have a friend person outside your normal boy/girl friend relationships. A very important person Shayla. you be in control of your love and respect for yourself don't let another use or abuse you. I can, I will, I must just for me and my peace of mind. Be true to yourself, Always believe in yourself. read Darlene's comment to you. take it to heart from another womans heart to you personally.
