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Child Abuse Story From Selena

by Selena
(Indiana, USA)




Growin up I lived with my birth mom. She did drugs every night and day. She abused me and neglected me. She told me I would never amount to anything in life and I was worthless. I feel like that all the time now. She prostituted herself and even me. If I said no she threatened to kill me. Now I see her all the time when I go to the store and she gives me mean eyes...but I'm livin with my dad. I feel safer with him.

That's not my whole story or even close to half. But I don't know how to stand strong.

A Video Reading by Darlene BarriereNote from Darlene: The volume of contributor submissions has now made it impossible for me to comment personally (especially in great detail) on each and every contribution. If I haven't left you a comment or one that is in-depth, please do not take my lack of a personal response as a slight, or as a statement that your story is somehow unworthy of my time. Nothing, and I do mean nothing, could be further from the truth. If there was a way for me to respond to all of you at length, I would.

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Child Abuse Story From Selena

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Apr 18, 2009
You already KNOW how to stand strong...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Selena, you stand strong by leaning on the people who are there to protect you and keeping you safe from harm (in your case, your father). You stand strong by finding a support system with trusted friends and perhaps family members. You stand strong with the knowledge that you lived through heinous abuse and survived to share your experiences with others. You stand strong with the understanding that you ARE worthy, that you ARE deserving of love and nurturing, dignity and respect. You stand strong with the wisdom of knowing that what happened to you was not your fault. You stand strong realizing that you are a precious and compassionate young woman, and that you will not allow what happened to you at the hands of very twisted mother turn you hostile and wanting revenge. You stand strong appreciating all the positive things that you now have in your life, a life that you are now spending with your father. You stand strong by waking up each day and putting one foot in front of the other, and then waking up the next day and putting one foot in front of the other. And as the days turn into weeks and the weeks into months, you will find yourself not just going through the motions of every day life, but actually living your life to the fullest possible.

You see, Selena, you DO know how to stand strong because you already ARE standing strong.

But standing strong does not mean that you don't need help. Standing strong means asking for help when you need it. Talk to your father. Tell him how you feel. Be honest with him about needing help. If you don't feel comfortable talking with him, then turn to a trusted teacher or a school counsellor, or perhaps the mother of a friend. Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) is an excellent resource as well. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. And right now, Selena, you probably need people to listen to you.

And Selena, you'll note I removed the lovely photograph you included of yourself. I did so in order to protect your privacy.

Thank you for sharing even just a little bit of your story with my visitors and me. And KEEP standing strong.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 19, 2009
I feel your pain
by: Amanda

I know how youre feeling, i may not know you but your not alone. i suffered at the hands of my mother too. i posted my story up here so people would know what i went threw. dont think for a minute that your a bad person. i think that about my self all the time, but i try hard not to, but its hard.

Apr 21, 2009
A Sadist for a Mom...and a Guardian Angel for a Dad
by: Francine

Selena, your so-called mom is wrong. You are not worthless; you are worthy of love, dignity and respect. I'm so sorry that you had to live with a mom that actually took pleasure in prostituting you as well as herself. However, I am glad that your father is with you now cuz he is soooo sweet for doing that; I just hope that your so-called mom finally gets incarcerated for all those horrible crimes that she committed against you.

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