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Child Abuse Story From Sasha

by Sasha J
(USA)




When I was fourteen, my stepdad took me to an elite type party and made me feel like an absolute queen. I was with my stepsister who'll I call Rebecca. At the party he got me a little drunk and we danced a little provocatively. Me being a little tipsy allowed him to grind on me and such.

After a little while I began to feel a little woozy and told him to bring me back home. That's when he threw me in the car and raped me, telling me the whole time that I wanted it and was craving it the whole time.

When I got home I told my mother the whole story and she decided I was telling the truth. After that, she threw me in the tub and told me to scrub off all the evidence. That it was for my own good.

I felt like she was telling the truth since I let him dance with me and give me alcohol. I mean, I would have never done it if I didn't want it.

Anyways, Mom told me that if we sent my stepfather to jail that we would have to live on the streets, since he was the sole breadwinner. I couldn't be responsible for that so I kept my mouth shut. I became really rude and disrespectful to my mom who wouldn't listen to a word I had to say. That what happened to me was for my own good. That it was better losing my virginity to a respected man than some hoodlum.

Now I am fifteen and he still lives with us. He comes into my bedroom every night and does his daily thing. It has become like a nightly routine for me. When my mom is out of town or something, I'm there for his pleasure or what not. My own stepsister, which is his daughter, hates me, claiming that I was trying to send her father to jail.

I feel trapped and I almost feel like his slave, that without him I have no purpose.

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Child Abuse Story From Sasha

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Jul 13, 2009
What's happening to you is criminal...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Sasha, this is not your purpose and it's not your fault. You did not ask for it, nor are you responsible for what's happened. Responsiblity lies with your stepfather and your mother.

Your mother has traded you for the income benefit that comes with the man she married. This is not only unethical, immoral and outrageous, it is criminal. Both your stepdad and your mother are acting criminally against you: your stepfather by molesting you; your mother by knowingly and purposefully allowing it to continue.

I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what are dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Sasha, you purpose is NOT tied into what both your mother and your stepfather want of you. Your purpose is much deeper than that, but only you can act on your own behalf. While I thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, I cannot be strong enough in urging you to contact Child Help, and/or other agencies in order to stop this sexual abuse from continuing. You're worth so much more than what is happening in your home. You do not deserve to be molested, and you certainly are not responsible to ensure that your mother is taken care of by the man who continues to rape you. And just so you know, he's likely raping other girls as well. It is very likely he is and has been molesting his own daughter, as unbelievable as that may sound to you. Sex offenders do not change their ways, they do not molest only one victim, and they do not stop until they are made to stop. For your own sanity and protection, call Child Help, today.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jul 14, 2009
Oh heed her words make contact with childline
by: maurice

Sasha, great you were brave enough in yourself to come on Darlene's site and tell your horrendous story of being sexually abused. Do your very best to heed every word of Love from Darlene who knows how sad and tragic your story. So vulnerable you still are and will be as long as that beats of a step-father is around you. Your Mother is aiding and abetting his evil ways, she is not much of a mother who has birthed the most beautiful child ever born. Sasha, please read Darlene's words to you. be brave and as you found inner believe and strength to write and tell your story, you can down load it and I am certain you have another true friend your own age whom you have trust or knows your predicament, between both of you get this beast of a man out of circulation. Darlene is right just trust her and believe when she says this Man is doing the same to other innocent/vulnerable teenagers and even his own daughter. She is one knowledgeable and professional woman who cares and knows how awful sexual abusers are. So Sasha, go on child helpline. or write your story and give it to the authorities. It will end a world of misery for you. I am sure your Mam will be proved wrong, she will find ways to love you, your sister with the help of the professional and caring groups around you. Sasha be safe, you are too precious and special not to love yourself enough and safeguard your sister and step sister and others from that sex abuser father of yours

Jul 18, 2009
you can do it.
by: Ana H

Sasha you need to get help. I was in your situation about two weeks ago till i got up the strenght to call the hotline. they talked me through everything. i am now in a safe place. you can do it to.

Jul 19, 2009
please, oh please love yourself
by: maurice

Sasha, great loving/caring/words of encouragement from Darlene. Ana H and myself. Ana H brief but encouraging words to you are truly from her heart to you. She knows if she is brave and strong enough to tell and get away to be safe, You too can be too. I can, I will, I must, I owe it to my wonderful and beautiful self to be safe to be loved. Please, oh please LOVE yourself Sasha.

Oct 09, 2009
come on
by: Here4u

wow i don't think i would be able to handle that and you haven't gotten pregnant? OK what you need to do is talk to a teacher,doctor,counselor or somebody that you trust they will believe you because nobody would lie about being abused is a serious thing even if they don't believe you go to the police you will be taken care of by somebody who wont take away your innocence. I've been there myself if you don't tell somebody you will regret it i know i did

Oct 10, 2009
I hope and pray your are in a safer and a better place
by: maurice

Sasha, here4u has just with her loving caring thoughts for you has brought your awful abuse to mind again. My heartfelt true feelings for you. I hope and pray you are in a safer and a better place NOW. Always believe in yourself, You are the most beautiful and wonderful teenager ever born. There is help out there for you. There are other teenagers around you who I am sure you have made friends with. one or two in particularI am sure you have told or know of your family situation. Let them be your inner strength in getting help. You be brave, be strong for your own protection and safety. Love the beauty of your body and the beauty of your sexuality respect both as being sacred to you.

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